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finding the one after a break up

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sausagedogmumm · 19/07/2021 21:17

Long time lurker and wanted some advice/hope really.

I’m 25 and have just broken up with my partner of almost 5 years. It was fairly mutual, having being stuck in lockdown with each other for 1.5 years, some of which was spent sharing a tiny room in a town we barely knew anyone as you can guess there’s been a lot of strain. I was getting sick of not getting attention without asking for it and he just wanted to do his own thing, we both felt the feelings had lessened and having been ‘seeing each other’ on and off from 18-20 and then together 20-24/5 just felt like we needed some time to be single. We’ve spilt and both moved back home to parents, we still talk due to having to deal with a house move and having same friends and a dog. We’re on good terms and agreed we’d never rule out rekindling one day if we felt it was right but are also open to being friends. It may sound mad as we’ve just broken up but the relationship lost its spark a long time ago and I think lots of the upset and grief was felt while we were still together.

I am of course sad and having not dated much or ever been with anyone else I’m guessing I just want some positive accounts of people who have had a fairly long relationship break up and then found someone who suited them better (I wouldn’t rule out stories of couples getting back together either). Just a bit of a reminder that I’m still young and I can meet new people and feel happy again I guess. TIA

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sausagedogmumm · 21/07/2021 14:28

anyone? :(

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VenusClapTrap · 21/07/2021 15:01

Not me, but Dh was with his ex for 12 years before splitting up, and then met me six months later. She was his only previous girlfriend and they were very young when they started dating. Since meeting me, he has, of course, been happily ever after. Smile

peanutbutter00 · 21/07/2021 15:07

I split up with a partner I thought I'd marry and buy a house with, it was mutual as we were fundamentally incompatible but I was devastated. I am now with a partner who makes me incredibly happy, respects me and shows a great deal of care.

I will say when I was actively 'looking' I had poor or mediocre experiences on dates etc but when I relaxed and said what will be will be, is when I met him. I don't actually think there is the 'one' for everyone and some relationships are not meant to last the rest of your life and that's ok! We all grow from relationships and might not be compatible with the same person forever

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Dazedandconfused10 · 21/07/2021 15:13

Still looking! Not sure he exists

1FootInTheRave · 21/07/2021 16:44

I never actively looked. The opposite tbh.

Stayed single and enjoyed my own company.

Dh was totally unexpected and is without a doubt "my one".

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