How do you get out of a friendship?

[Tannery3737]

We met through our DC becoming friends in school. The girls are in secondary now and their friendship is drifting. I'm finding the friendship with the mum absolutely suffocating and it's giving me huge anxiety. It's the reason I'm awake at 6.30 on a bloody Sunday! I feel trapped. I don't want to fall out with her I just don't want her in my life anymore. I don't enjoy her company. There's obviously more to the reasons why I'm feeling like this but I don't want to give details on here. Many thanks.

Limit and phase out communication

Become very slow at responding to select messages, don't respond to ones asking you to do something/go somewhere and then stop responding altogether.

Works a treat.

A slow fade is kinder than a brutal breakup, you just have to play a slightly longer game.

I'm just not sure it'll work. She'll know what I'm doing and it'll turn into a confrontation. I've never been in this position before but somethings got to change. I'll try the phase out. Thanks everyone.

Ignore the confrontation too. Or, if she gets aggressive, say to her 'this is exactly why I've chosen to limit our contact. I'm not willing to argue.'

If she confronts you, you treat it like a break up. This relationship no longer works for me. I will not discuss it further.

If there's an obvious reason, why not just say, sorry I'm not enjoying meeting up any more. It's less cruel than phasing out, leaving her wondering for ages what's going on.

How often do you see her in person?
Does she live near by?

delete her number

Always get out of meeting up. You can say you’re busy, don’t feel well etc but still respond to messages. It’ll die out if only one of you ever makes communication. I’ve done this twice with DC friends mothers who’s company I didn’t enjoy. If I bump into them in town I always say hello and ask after the kids etc.