Lightheartedly - my 10 year old worries me!

[Amandasummers]

She’s a dreamer, zones out completely, sometimes I leave her and her 12 year old brother at home while I run errands for a short period of time (and my neighbours know they are there without me) I said to her “what do you do if there’s a fire?”
“Call you”
“What’s the FIRST thing you do?”
blank stare

Please tell me despite what her answer was, her actual instinct would be to get out, wouldn’t it?!!! I despair.

I taught mine the mantra "get out, stay out, get the fire brigade out". Maybe something like that would help?

Yeah maybe!! Is there some kind of condition where just don’t react appropriately in a crisis? Because I’m a bit like that. We’ve had two big things, my toddler falling and there was blood everywhere, and a fire, and both times, I just didn’t function or do anything I should have done, but then I wonder if I was alone and nobody else was there to take over i probably would react appropriately?! I started this about my daughter but now I’m questioning myself 🤦🏻‍♀️

How is she doing academically? It could be she lacks common sense / needs to mature / could be something more?

I wouldn't leave her home alone if she can't keep herself safe.

She does well at school, so I’ve always put it down to the fact that when she comes home she just slips into relax mode. You could say something to her 6 times and she’s still look at you blankly and you know she has no idea what you’ve said! I think she could keep herself safe but I worry that she just simply wouldn’t notice if something is happening )which is why I always tell my neighbour and she’s usually with her brother! Maybe it’s because her life has always been the same? Tiny school, same group of 5 throughout the whole thing, so everything is the same and comfortable so maybe she just doesn’t expect the unexpected, or something?! My son on the other hand shocked me, when the toddler fell I was useless and he took over the whole thing and I was really surprised and so thankful he was there!