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What has the pinnacle of your day today?

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SummerIsComing2019 · 16/07/2021 21:45

I'll start with mine:

I have lived through the most horrible week of my adult life this week. I've spent most of my awake time crying and wishing for the pain to go away.
Today I had to go back to work for the second time since starting my job to meet the wider team. I woke up at 5 to give myself enough time to pull myself together. Had a shower, shaved my legs, washed my hair.
I have managed to go through the day without breaking down at all. One little victory at a time!
On the way back home stopped on Westminster bridge and noticed how easy it would be to jump off and gave that thought some time. Decided I can't do it and made my way back home.

At home I took my trousers off and to my horror there were 2 huge red stains going down from the crotch onto both trouser legs.
Is this for real ... I just can't shake the embarrassment off.

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SummerIsComing2019 · 16/07/2021 21:46

I honestly wish someone had made me aware...

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sadperson16 · 16/07/2021 21:49

I'm sorry I dont understand this but you sound very distressed .Do you think you need to see a doctor?

Mummyratbag · 16/07/2021 21:51

You poor thing. I hope you are OK. How dark are you trousers? Is it possible no one noticed? Is it possible it happened on the way home?

Well done on getting up and out today. When you say pain is it mental or physical? Are you getting help?

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SummerIsComing2019 · 16/07/2021 21:53

No, I don't need a doctor, I just need time.

My period came, I didn't realise somehow (because I am a bit of a mess as you pointed out) and walked like that, with the trousers stained around the office for many hours probably

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SummerIsComing2019 · 16/07/2021 21:55

Thank you mummyratbag - they are beige...

Not physical, but that's for another thread.

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sadperson16 · 16/07/2021 21:56

I hope you are OK.

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SummerIsComing2019 · 16/07/2021 22:00

It actually made me laugh. You just can't win sort of thing.
But now I'm getting quite embarrassed and dread the teams call on Monday

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WitchWand · 16/07/2021 22:00

@SummerIsComing2019

I'll start with mine:

At home I took my trousers off and to my horror there were 2 huge red stains going down from the crotch onto both trouser legs.
Is this for real ... I just can't shake the embarrassment off.

You poor thing. Just that last part of your day would have had me hiding under my bed covers right now . Not sure at all where I'd be if anything else had happened on top of that !

So, to be honest, more than anything else, I think you're incredibly brave.

geekchicz · 16/07/2021 22:01

No one noticed . Someone kind would have said I assure you . There are many kind people who would whisper . I think I would mention this to a stranger on the street as I am older and don’t care what others think. . Do not worry . So what. My summer was extremely traumatic last year . We live with the results this year but life is calmer now . This too shall pass . It’s just the way it works . Get some sleep . The sun shines tomorrow. Take care

badlydrawnbear · 16/07/2021 22:04

It sounds like you did amazingly well to get out of the house despite everything and go to work. I hope that in time you can focus on that part of the day rather than the state of your trousers. Do you have to see your colleagues again any time soon if this is only the second time this year? If not, I would assume that, even if they had noticed your trousers rather than being too preoccupied with their own life, they will have forgotten when you next see them.
From someone who would probably have thought much the same thoughts if I had crossed Westminister Bridge today. I hope whatever is going on to make you think that improves soon.

WitchWand · 16/07/2021 22:06

The pinnacle of my day has been doing loads of admin which has gradually taken me further towards reaching my new professional project.

I really didn't want to do it. And it took me so much longer than I'd expected. But I'm so pleased I did it. And now it feels good that I'm gradually getting nearer my goal.

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SummerIsComing2019 · 16/07/2021 22:07

That's what I thought and had there been any women in the office I would have been certain no one saw because it is very likely a woman would have told me. But because they were all men I'm horrified they've probably seen it and did not know how to approach me?!

It looked like it has been there for a while.

I'm a grown woman, how TF did that happen!!

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Janaih · 16/07/2021 22:07

You poor thing. You've made it through your hell week so give yourself a gold star and have a hug from me.

I'm virtually certain nobody noticed your trousers. 99% of women would have discreetly told you.

Janaih · 16/07/2021 22:08

And 99% of men wouldn't notice...

Mummyratbag · 16/07/2021 22:14

It's horrid, but any woman who saw would have either told you or understood how it could happen. Any man who saw it and didn't mention it through embarrassment is unlikely to mention it to anyone else! I can totally understand your horror, but at the end of the day it's blood that is all. You haven't harmed anyone. You haven't done anything wrong.

I really hope yours days get brighter and that time heals whatever it is that is causing you pain.

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SummerIsComing2019 · 16/07/2021 22:15

Badlydrawnbear I'm sorry to hear that, I hope tomorrow will be a better day for you.

I have kids and I must go on, it has just been a shitty time. But they jumped on me when I opened the door and one of them shouted "you got poo on your trousers. Oh, sorry, it's mud actually!"

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Tangledtresses · 16/07/2021 22:17

Do you think you coming on had something to do with you feeling shite?

Now your home, just take care of you xx

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SummerIsComing2019 · 16/07/2021 22:17

Janaih, that made me chuckle!

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SummerIsComing2019 · 16/07/2021 22:20

I think it's probably the stress, came on a few days early and as I was so focused on getting through the day, I just did not feel it coming on

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SummerIsComing2019 · 16/07/2021 22:23

WitchWand, congratulations for getting closer to your goal, well done for getting on with it.
I don't dislike admin work, I just need to be in the right mindset. I sometimes find it almost therapeutical.

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Lovemusic33 · 17/07/2021 08:20

Sorry your having such a rough time OP, do not worry about the period thing, if anyone did notice then they are unlikely to say anything to anyone else, I think men would be too embarrassed to pull you to one side and let you know.

I have been where you were whilst walking over the bridge, I contemplated suicide several times, I didn’t really want to do it but just thought how easy it would have been and wondered what would happen if I did, the truth was ‘if I did do it my kids lives would be ruined as would my parent lives, they need me’, I know from my ex husbands experience how losing a parent to suicide ruins your life. Anyway, my life is a lot different now, much happier although still stressful at times, I’m glad I only contemplated it and never acted on it, I look at my kids (now teens) and think how lucky I am 🙂.

I hope things improve for you and don’t worry about the period thing, it’s nothing compared to fighting depression/grief/anxiety etc.., concentrate on feeling better

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