Those who have no support network how do you cope on the bad days

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On those bad days how do you cope? For me I have no choice but to move on through the pain.

I live away from family. DH is good but I don't think really understands me all the time. My mother is emotionally removed and always has been, she does not and cannot support me emotionally she's incompetent in that department. My father is hit and miss but 90% miss. My siblings are just too busy with their lives. I have acquaintances rather than friends due to moving around a lot. So I have no one I can really bare my soul or parts of to apart from my DH.

I have no choice but to be strong but I break sometimes and it's crushing. I have to be my own friend and support network, anyone else the same?

This evening has been classic shit catastrophe after shit catastrophe and I just have to move on.

Ironic...

Sorry to hear you’re having a rough time, OP. I think most people can relate to feeling alone, even people who do have a support network. I’m not minimising your feeling but rather reassuring you that you’re not on your own.

In answer to your question, I pray, internally celebrate small triumphs in connecting with people, (even just making chit chat), make time for something just for me, even if it’s sitting in the garden on my own for a few minutes with a book, just a little break from everything. Come onto MN and laugh (etc) along with other posters or be interested.

I’m sorry you feel alone, and settling into close friendships does feel like the long game. Hang in there!

Do you want to talk about your evening on here? There are plenty of people who care and are willing to listen X

@MrsPlugThePlumber thank you. Yes there are definitely some things in that list I could do more of and be better at thank you xx

@DaffyDaffy I do but I won't.... I'll be judged badly 😂 But thank you for the offer. I've actually just told my husband what's happened and he's been great about it (to my face at least)... Hope he's not thinking I'm a bad person.

It’s a weird time for everyone at the moment, I think. Parenting can be lonely anyway, and then adding (literal) isolations and general worry have really exacerbated things (for me, anyway).

I like what you said about being your own friend, btw. Being kind and treating ourselves with care is such a great mindset!