Do you feel rejection when parents don't reply to your DC's party invites

[flyingbutterflies]

I prob need to get over it, but My DC is so excited. I don't know how to cater for the party when only a a few have RSVP'd. Two of my replies are people not coming, so do I assume the others are all coming .. party is on Sunday 😬 Do I invite some neighbours to fill the space ?

I always found it shocking but have learned via Mumsnet and experience that MANY people are rude bastards unaware they're meant to respond or think they're too important and STILL TURN UP to the party.

Is this one of your first?

Sorry I didn't advise. When is the party and when did you send invitations?

Gah it's on Sunday! Sorry....what I would do is send out a text asking. And yes, invite a few neighbours but be aware the others might come anyway.

No I don't consider it a rejection but the height of rudeness.

I don't feel just rejected, just really bloody annoyed. Can you phone/ text/email/contact via Facebook the rude gits who haven't yet replied and say you need final numbers this evening?

Yep first party with school friends rather than just family

Some ill mannered oiks think they only need respond when they're not coming, God know why.
Hopefully the rest will be there. But yes, definitely text around.

We do have a school message group, but only the same few write on it, so I'll try that now, but not sure who reads it ? Weirdly the ones that write on the group haven't responded. Maybe they don't know what RSVP means ?

Just a bit nervous for my DC, prob one the quietest in the class, hoped the party would boost popularity.. wishful thinking

No. I just think they are rude. Sadly this is becoming the norm. Fortunately your DC will grow up fast and only invite a couple of good friends as they get older.

@flyingbutterflies

Just a bit nervous for my DC, prob one the quietest in the class, hoped the party would boost popularity.. wishful thinking

Don't worry, I'll bet they'll all show up. You'll probably be lucky if they don't bring extra siblings too! That happens...

I would send each parent a personal message asking if they could confirm attendance so that you know whether to provide a food pack for their child. Might nudge them into a response if they think their child might not get fed.

Don’t forget the people who turn up with 2 children too, and expect a party bag for the other sibling too

I had the same with my DC first party. Bloody annoying. I only had room for 20 so invited 20. I would have invited more if people declined. I was worried right up till party time but all but one showed up.

It's so rude! Not sure if it's people not wanting to commit themselves or not knowing its polite. Hope it goes well.

Rather than writing in school group I'd get individual numbers of those who haven't responded and (politely but firmly) message them directly