Anyone live alone?

[justustwoandmoo]

I don't live alone all the time but it's becoming more frequent. I have my daughter 50% of the time and my partner works away a lot (he's currently in the States for 2 months). Him times away are becoming more often as COVID lifts.

How do you deal with living alone? Do you like it?

I'm sort of happy and just get on with it. This evening I've found myself facing tomorrow (on leave) and the weekend alone. I don't like to bother friends and family too much but I do sometimes feel lonely.

Anyone else?

Living alone full time / permanently as a choice is not at all the same as having a resident partner who works away. Obviously in the latter situation one would actively be missing the other person and, to some extent, just be filling in the time till they return. That isn't how properly living alone feels.

@Edmontine

Living alone full time / permanently as a choice is not at all the same as having a resident partner who works away. Obviously in the latter situation one would actively be missing the other person and, to some extent, just be filling in the time till they return. That isn't how properly living alone feels.

Yes that's fair enough. Guess I'm just looking for others finding themselves alone a lot. Thanks for replying though x

Loneliness can be very painful, but you do have the reunion to look forward to in the future.

Meanwhile, I would hope that your family don't think you're a "bother". They probably get it that you feel alone. Maybe you could organise a little garden party for any family that live close? So that it feels more like being invited to an event for them, since it sounds a little like you're worried they might think of you as needy?

An absorbing hobby might be good too. Gardening and quilting are both quite intellectually challenging and time consuming, and certainly will fill a lot of hours!

My parents had this kind of relationship. Mum was often a single parent for as long as 6 months at a time, with 2 small children. She definitely didn't enjoy being apart from DH, but she coped by doing things for her own self that she maybe wouldn't have done if dad was home. One we were in bed she would paint and sew, and when we were both in school she started a degree.

It's painful to be separated from someone you love, but also might give you opportunities that you wouldn't have otherwise

I live alone. I work full time. I plan weekends visiting friends or asking them if they want to join me with my plans. So for example I'll cook a big roast dinner and invite my friends, they'll join me shopping even to places like IKEA and pop into the coffee shop at the end. I'll visit family etc. Then there's the humdrum stuff such as food shopping etc, housework etc. Any time left after that I have hot baths, read, watch TV and treat myself to appointments at the beauty salon.

Thank you for such lovely responses! I think I just find it tough and quite lonely sometimes. Especially in the evenings. In the day I work and if I'm not I can occupy myself quite well.

You are right though in that I should reach out to family more really and make plans.

I think sometimes it's easy to look around and see only families and groups of people all together x