Poor treatment after resigned

[Xewie]

Name changed. I have resigned and managers have taken badly. Previously well thought of, high reviews, asked me to stay.

Now bad mouthing me, being blamed for everything that is wrong (rather than admits things that are wrong are why I’m leaving). We are so busy and under staffed that I don’t want to screw team over by going sick.

How can I get through this month??

Make it clear that if this continues you will consider it harassment, and if they are men, ask if they would treat a man in the same way?

Women, actually. I would prefer to leave on good terms but am doing crazy hours and being. Treated badly

Oh, the joys of the crab bucket. They don't like it when you escape.

I can't offer much advice beyond gritting your teeth. If you're counting down to another job, at least they can't shit on your references. Personally, I'd interrupt every word of abuse by asking them to repeat it. That's how I got through my last month at Tossco. I'd resigned immediately after winning a substantial amount of fiddled wages, and they tried to jerk my chain. I jerked back harder, but then I'm an unpleasant man with a deep streak of cruelty.

Courage and good luck.

Well, I wouldn't be doing the crazy hours for a start! Walk around with a permanent smile at the thought that you are soon escaping and ignore whatever bile they are spouting. You are the better person, keep telling yourself that - and good luck!

And get yourself signed off with stress.

The team will be without you from the end of the month anyway. No good running yourself ragged and being treated badly, is it supposed to put the rest of them off resigning?

Show them there is a world out there and how much better you will be without that environment to drag you down.

Nothing stopping them getting a new role.

Am probably more bothered than I should be at not letting the side down/abandoning ship vs not wanting to be blamed for things going wrong.... which am sure will be anyway.

Feel like between a rock and hard place

Make sure you have copies of all the good reviews you've had, emails confirming things you've achieved so that if the worst happens you can back up what you say. (I did this - not in UK though - to force an employer to give me an excellent instead of rubbish reference)

How long do you have? Can you use up any leave you might have left? Otherwise try to grin and bear it. Sirry

Also make sure your team know you're on their side

You can take the last week off sick without having to provide a doctors note. Think of it as their punishment for badly treating you.

Well, at least you know you've made the right decision.

If you've got your references etc then I'd let rip
Tell them exactly what the problems are if they start trying to pin it on you. Tell them you're leaving but you won't be taking their own failings with you.

Hopefully they'll put you on gardening leave.

It's pretty standard tbh. Ime it's been because it's dawning on them they are now going to have to pull their fingers out and do their job. They are going to lose on the whatever it is you organise/take in for the benefit of others. It's because their fart arsing around means that team goals and bonuses will no longer be met. It's because there's a fear that the replacement won't put up and shut up with their shite attitudes to work.

It's very tempting to let rip. But your just playing into their hands because it comes across as you are defending yourself, which is interpreted by some as validation for them.

Laugh them off, smile, even throw out the occasional keep it coming as it's only reminding me why I'm leaving and smile. Make small remarks about them losing their memory as they keep repeating themselves. It's fun to watch them seethe.

Unfortunately this is an age-old problem. It's happened to me too. All I can say is to keep your head held high, do your work, and every time they're rude to you, you can smile inwardly and remind yourself that you'll be outta there in a few weeks, and they'll still be stuck in that dreary office, so you get the better deal in the end.

Agree with a pp that it's worth keeping records of things you've achieved, emails and reviews with positive feedback etc.

Good advice all! Smile plastered on, and counting down days. Those that have worked with me, know what I am made of so will have faith I. That to keep me going!

And all reviews printed

Just keep saying (in your head or out loud if you need to) This is why I am leaving.

I did this in my last job. Out loud. Unfortunately once to a customer.

Eeek

I resigned from a job a numbers of years ago and the backlash was awful (IMO). I spoke to my line manager in advance of handing in my notice and gave 2 months' notice.

I was no longer invited to team meetings.

When the manager went on leave his phone was diverted to mine, not to one of the others.

Was excluded from conversations and not invited to socials.

I spent the first few weeks feeling upset and excluded and then thought sod this. I sent a follow up resignation letter and said actually I'm only going to give 4 weeks' notice from the date of my first letter so will be leaving at the end of the week. By the Tuesday it was unbearable and I packed my things and left with no intention of returning. I had lots of annual leave which they were going to pay me for so I told them I'm taking the rest of the week as leave.

You don't owe your employer a life long commitment, especially when things are awful. You can pick and choose and shouldn't have to feel guilty for leaving. Keep your head down, do your job well and keep smiling. You'll be out of there soon. Congratulations and good luck with what comes next.

but then I'm an unpleasant man with a deep streak of cruelty.

This made me smile!!