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Is anyone up, really don’t know what to do

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Nightmarenextdoor · 15/07/2021 01:57

My nightmare neighbour is kicking off and I’m too much of a wimp to go round, I’m on my own and I really don’t want any trouble but ffs it’s 2am 🤬

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fussygalore118 · 15/07/2021 01:58

Kick-off how?
Police I would suggest tbh.

Dementedswan · 15/07/2021 01:58

What do you mean by kicking off?

Dementedswan · 15/07/2021 01:59

If you think they are a danger to themselves or others call the police.

Badgertadger · 15/07/2021 01:59

Sorry, don't have the faintest idea what advice to give but at this time of the morning have some

Sycamoretrees · 15/07/2021 02:01

Sounds like a call to the police is in order?

Seesawmummadaw · 15/07/2021 02:02

What are they doing? Are you safe?

Alcesalces · 15/07/2021 02:02

At this time I wouldn't be going round but I would call the police. Hope you get some sleep soon OP.

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Nightmarenextdoor · 15/07/2021 02:05

Screaming argument with her ex husband. Sounds like it’s moved to the talking stage now but I can still hear them, it’s so bloody inconsiderate. She doesn’t work but I need to be up first thing.

I hear her constantly - rowing with her daughter, dogs barking all the time - but I’m scared to say anything as it’s just me and DD here and I don’t want to get on the wrong side of anyone 🙁

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JourneyToThePlacentaOfTheEarth · 15/07/2021 02:08

What a shame that she's such a problem. Have you looked into moving house?

Seesawmummadaw · 15/07/2021 02:08

Don’t say anything to them but do call the police if it sounds like it’s getting out of hand again.

Nat6999 · 15/07/2021 02:08

Are there any children there? If there are ring social services tomorrow it's no environment for children to live in.

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Nightmarenextdoor · 15/07/2021 02:16

We only moved here a couple of months ago, this was supposed to be a fresh start but it’s turning into a nightmare.

There’s a teenager but I don’t know if she’s there, from the sound of the rows social services are already aware of her for other reasons.

Part of me feels sorry for a fellow single mum who’s clearly having a tough time but the other just wants the selfish cow out of my life. It’s torture living like this - I never know when it will start, I have to sleep in earplugs as even when she’s not arguing she’s loud. I want to confront her calmly and point out how unreasonable she’s being but I’m not very good at standing up for myself 🙄

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Sycamoretrees · 15/07/2021 02:27

If she is already known to social services / the police, reporting the angry domestics each time they happen will help them to build a better picture of the situation. Sounds like your neighbours need support as much as you need a good night's sleep.

FootballisgoingtoRome · 15/07/2021 02:38

Phone the police if you are worried someone is in trouble

Calmyertits · 15/07/2021 02:43

Police, if its a domestic call it in. Absolutely not wrong to do that. I work in the control room and would not fall out with that at all but more so about the domestic element as opposed to noise complaint x

Singinginshower · 15/07/2021 02:53

No help in the middle of the night but I'd look to move OP. I don't think you'd get much joy from complaining.
Short term, I'd be getting some decent headphones and listen to something lovely.
Can you put wardrobes or shelves of books against the party wall?

FortunesFave · 15/07/2021 03:09

I've got some of these for neighbours. Also only lived here a few months. At first I ignored as they both seemed as bad as each other but then last week, he chased her up the road and she hid in an adjacent garden. I was looking at them out of the window as I was concerned for her safety and he shouted up at me "Mind your own business cunt!" so every since then, I've called the cops. Every single time they row. I want them out. Him mainly...but she's terrible too. I hope he gets kicked out and has to live on the streets. He's an awful person.

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Nightmarenextdoor · 15/07/2021 03:21

I literally don’t know what to do, I’m not in the best place as it is. I started counselling today but I can’t see any point continuing, how can I heal and move forward when I have to live like this? I’m very low and feel completely unable to deal with this - it both scares and infuriates me and I can’t see a way out 😥

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sashh · 15/07/2021 03:42

Talk to your council.

I had problems with loud music, they linked me to an app to record the noise and they visit the house. They keep the report anonymous.

In fact after one recording the council person said the person I was complaining about wasn't impressed with my 'male visitor's language', it wasn't a visitor it was another neighbour who wasn't too polite which strengthened my case.

SeaShoreGalore · 15/07/2021 03:53

I would buy some noise cancelling headphones, or ear plugs.

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Nightmarenextdoor · 15/07/2021 04:19

I’m wearing earplugs now but it’s not the point, why should I have to? I read about selfish neighbours on here a lot and I know it’s sneered at by the cool MNers as people not being able to do what they want in their own homes but what about what I want? Why does her decision to live a selfish chaotic lifestyle trump my right to a peaceful one?

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WeHaveComeSoFar · 15/07/2021 06:35

Do they rent? If so, can you contact the landlord?

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Nightmarenextdoor · 15/07/2021 06:46

No she bought around the same time as me unfortunately.

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