Now you bloody know, don't you?

[Bobbiepin]

DD is isolating and DH is working from home so has been spending most of the time looking after her. I've been in and out when I can make it out the office. His work is more flexible than mine. It's been three days.

Today he told me he joined the work social call because he "needed to talk to another adult" and that he felt isolated because DD was being difficult and he couldn't do the usual dad thing of go somewhere and distract.

I tried to be sympathetic but in my head I was screaming "well now you know what 9 months of maternity leave was like. At least she fucking talks now and doesn't just scream until she's sick". I didn't say that, I was much nicer.

I can't shout this at anyone in real life so posting it here.

I hear you. Except my DH has yet to have any slightly similar experience.

I don't get it, but OK.

you should have told him exactly that.

I think I would say it at some point, maybe not while he's struggling but in a few days when dd is feeling better, remind him of exactly what your experience was.

How old is she?

@ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba

you should have told him exactly that.

I will when he's in a place to hear it. I had a rough day too, we both have short fuses and jt would only start a completely unnecessary argument tonight

Mine is isolating now (2yo) and I’m working my hours around her. DH developed a mysterious stomach bug on his day off with her but was better the day he was due back in work. I’ve currently been awake for 21 hours on the back of 2 hours sleep looking after both of them. Feels like maternity and I’m as angry with him as I was on maternity.

@DownWhichOfLate she's 3.

Also, she's isolating because her nursery bubble burst. She has been tested, is negative and is totally fine.

@SameToo I feel you, endless empathy here. I hope you get some sleep.

@Bobbiepin thank you, and you!