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Wwyd if your partner/husband had this on his phone?

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HereWeGoAgainRoundAndRound · 14/07/2021 21:01

Probably be flamed for going through search history but here goes...

Wwyd or think ? If you saw this on your DH phone history, baring in mind your already married.

Search history for 18ct gold engagement ring? At a cost £££! as well. And also not in my size😒.

Not quite sure what to say or think tbh, as we are already married so not sure how to have the chat I need to with him? Otherwise my mind will go crazy if I don't speak up.

I know I am being unreasonable for looking through his search history but something was on my mind so I had to have a look.
Btw he can go through my phone anytime knows passcode etc not Normally no issues in that respect of relationship.

OP posts:
sabrinathemiddleagewitch · 14/07/2021 21:34

I would presume a friend is getting engaged and asked his option on a ring or help finding one within a budget.

HollowTalk · 14/07/2021 21:37

I'm all for being wary and am the first to say get rid of someone who's bad for you, but it sounds as though your husband is a decent guy and there are no other concerns or worries.

DaisyWaldron · 14/07/2021 21:40

I'm always doing searches for things I read about in books. Anyone checking my search history would think I was planning a destination wedding in New Zealand and applying for a master's degree in astrophysics. I'm not.

Teaandjam · 14/07/2021 21:52

When you say it’s in his search history do you mean he specifically searched on google for an engagement ring in a size that isn’t yours, or did he have the page in his browsing history? They are 2 very different scenarios.

If he is thinking about leaving you, wouldn’t he rather have some time on his own or do you think he would go from woman to woman?

Was he single when you first met?

ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba · 14/07/2021 21:53

People Google or sorts of stuff.
You'd be surprised, shocked, disturbed and entertained by my search history.

I couldn't care less why it's in DH's search history. I'd not even think to ask. I don't even look at his phone, unless he wants to show me something or occasionally (say 3 times a year) I have to answer a phone call.

ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba · 14/07/2021 21:53

*all sorts

AOwlAOwlAOwl · 14/07/2021 21:53

Yeah my last few searches
angioplasty
transposition cipher
Amanda Murphy HSBC
diamond league
Inflatable kayak

I don't think you should read too much into searching about a diamond ring, I bet it's just curiosity

BeneficiaryMadness · 14/07/2021 21:54

My search history is ridiculous, and probably embarrassing.

I would also be fuming if my partner went through my phone, it’s so private.

lettie9 · 14/07/2021 22:02

I don't think search histories would show the ring size, as that would just be a drop down menu usually?

If this is a real situation, then I'd say don't worry. I mean, do you really suspect he's about to pop the question to another woman?? It's most likely an accidental advert click.

sleepymouse · 14/07/2021 22:06

I would assume a friend of his has either recently got engaged or planning to propose and he wanted to see what the ring is worth. Nothing suspicious here

AppleStars · 14/07/2021 22:15

I googled engagement rings yesterday as there was a question on a tv quiz show about the average £ spent on engagement rings in the UK - no intention of proposing to anyone!

babbaloushka · 14/07/2021 22:20

@bigbaggyeyes

Christ if I'm judged on the things I google people would think all sorts. So far this evening I've googled

Rightmove - I've no intention of moving
Door knockers
Ddos attacks
What does a saying mean
Marine biologist requirements - I've no desire to be a marine biologist

This inane list goes on

I think you're overthinking

Now you've got me itching to find out what requirements there are to be a marine biologist, dream job!
Pebbledashery · 14/07/2021 22:22

I think respect is the wrong word in your op. You clearly lack it to go through his phone.
It was most probably an ad. I'd be more worried if you found dating sites in his search history.

AnneShirleysNewDress · 14/07/2021 22:26

I clicked on a jewellery ad yesterday while scrolling. It's very easily done.

DojoWojo · 14/07/2021 22:33

A colleague has just got engaged and about 5 of us were googling rings last week in the staff room. It turned into a ridiculously expensive/ridiculously blingy/disney/ugliest ring "look at this shit!" type banter. So I suppose if one of the male colleague's wives searched their history they'd find all of that but it was obviously all completely innocent.

Unless there was anything else going on, I wouldn't even think anything of it.

HalzTangz · 14/07/2021 22:37

@HereWeGoAgainRoundAndRound

Probably be flamed for going through search history but here goes...

Wwyd or think ? If you saw this on your DH phone history, baring in mind your already married.

Search history for 18ct gold engagement ring? At a cost £££! as well. And also not in my size😒.

Not quite sure what to say or think tbh, as we are already married so not sure how to have the chat I need to with him? Otherwise my mind will go crazy if I don't speak up.

I know I am being unreasonable for looking through his search history but something was on my mind so I had to have a look.
Btw he can go through my phone anytime knows passcode etc not Normally no issues in that respect of relationship.

Maybe one of his mates or colleagues is about to pop the question and asked your husband to help choose a ring
TwinsAndTrifle · 14/07/2021 22:40

Either someone he knows is boasting of the £££ they've spent on a ring, and he's checking his much one like that would actually cost. Or something else has prompted him to check the price. I did when my friend was banging on and on about her £15k ring and being a bit shitty with her sister who's was smaller. Googled a few. £15k... more like £1500.

Also, I have no intention of going to the Maldives any time soon, but I saw an ad, googled and priced one up, for no point at all. I've also been looking at cars I don't need because I've got one that's only 9 months old, and girls bedroom furniture that DD will not need for a good five years.

AdobeWanKenobi · 14/07/2021 23:13

I’m another googler of random shit. If DH went through mine he’d panic as I often look at prams and car seats mentioned on here as well as a host of other stuff.

Like another poster said above I love information.

LovelyGirlCompetition · 14/07/2021 23:16

I just checked my search history for tonight. Liquid ecstasy. Zombies. Range master cookers and whippets! In the last few hours, and it goes on. Reasons to use unreasonable behaviour in a divorce petition. Might add, all of these are totally irrelevant and more to do with questions on Mumsnet or whatever I was reading at the time! I would be angry if someone went through my history and accused me of ..what? Being a drug addict. Running off with a zombie and getting a divorce Grin

Firsttimecatlady · 14/07/2021 23:20

Only you know how your husband would react to finding out you’d been snooping on his phone- but if it were me I’d be absolutely livid. Not because there’s anything to hide, but because of the mistrust, and the invasion of privacy. If you’re not 100% sure he won’t feel the same way, think hard about whether you want to raise it at all- or if you do, do so with a big apology. He really doesn’t have to explain anything to you either. (But he might have a different take on it of course, and might not mind at all- he possibly trawls through your search history too!)

LobotomisedIceSkatingFan · 14/07/2021 23:20

I think he was watching the same show as @AppleStars, which I'm assuming was 'Richard Osman's House of Games'?

TwinsAndTrifle · 14/07/2021 23:22

Yeah, actually MN has a lot to answer for. Especially the child maintenance threads, where the amount paid is far higher or lower than the salary in question dictates. I check to see the validity of what OP is saying.

Now if DH saw I'd been googling child maintenance calculations, I doubt he'd think of Mumsnet Grin

AppleStars · 14/07/2021 23:35

@LobotomisedIceSkatingFan

I think he was watching the same show as *@AppleStars*, which I'm assuming was 'Richard Osman's House of Games'?
You would be correct! I was surprised by both the guesses and the actual answer, had assumed it would be much higher!
Ariela · 14/07/2021 23:40

@LobotomisedIceSkatingFan

I think he was watching the same show as *@AppleStars*, which I'm assuming was 'Richard Osman's House of Games'?
I watched this too, was at a friend's house, TV was on, and she looked it up on Google, I guessed as my phone was in the car.
Laufeythejust · 14/07/2021 23:57

This thread made me check my history too-
Maternity pay
Average time for deadhangs
O2 telephone number
1.5kg bag of m and ms
What happens after getting charged with an offence
I’m not pregnant, I’m not with O2, I don’t like m and ms and I’ve definitely not been arrested Grin
I bet it’s something innocent OP, maybe something he has seen online or he’s trying to work out how much someone spent.