My dm is a hoarder. For the last 20 years she has lived with her partner and they have isolated themselves from most people. Their house is full of crap. It's dirty and disgusting. I have a complicated relationship with dm. It is not acrimonious but I just let her get on with it. My 11 year old DC has never visited her house despite the fact she lives less than a mile away.
Sadly dm's partner is now terminally ill and currently receiving palliative care at their house. We have been supporting her as best we can through this. When he first arrived home from hospital we had to clear space to enable them get him set-up comfortably. That space has now been filled. She just can't seem to stop herself from obtaining (ie. Free shit from Facebook) more stuff. Most of the rooms are unusable except from the kitchen and living room although they are only barely so. Her DP requires a lot of care and the rubbish is just mounting up. I don't know how to help her. It's like she can't see it and she certainly can't cope with getting rid of things. I don't know what to do.
Does anyone have any experience of how to deal with this?
Thanks