What have you got to be grateful for

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Feeling frustrated that I can barely get any work done while looking after dd who has covid and 3 others in the home while dh can sit happily on his pc working.... so thought I'd start a positive thread to lift mine and others spirits...

wondering what you really have to be grateful for?

I'll start... I'm so grateful I started my own business late 2018 and it's doing well and I can work from home (and yes I am frustrated that right now I can't work but thankful I don't have to worry about losing my job if that makes sense

1. My health and my families health.

1. That I have a warm home, it might not be a palace but it is home and I feel safe here

I mean you can have more than 3 but I'm struggling. Maybe more will come to me

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Loads: My health and my family’s health, my lovely new garden which is currently a bomb site but is giving me so much joy, my luck in having been able to move to the prettiest county in a beautiful country, my old school friends and every day, my luck in being born British. Even as I frequently roll my eyes and curl my lip at the place.

Oh and bookshops. And libraries. And the internet, there to answer every question I have.

Come to think of it the most depressing thing in my life is me and my utter inability to get my crap together and give back for all this undeserved luck. Do I thank my body for being healthy with a run, sparkling water and vegetable plates? No, I berate it for having a big bottom that I sit on while drinking too much wine.

Having a garden

Having a secure job

Having healthy kids

Having a lovely husband

Living near my family

Lovely thread idea, I hope it cheers you up

Genuinely nice kids, grandkids and DP.

Secure home and garden.

Job and colleagues that I like, even though the money is rubbish.

Being able to get help for my current medical issues despite the restrictions.

Finally shifting the half stone that I acquired in lockdown. Crossing fingers that I don't have to have time off leading to me putting it back on again!

Two beautiful kids, wonderful husband, my family and friends, no serious money troubles or worries, food in the cupboards and roof over our heads, we’re (mostly) in good health, I love and am loved. I am extremely lucky and grateful.

I have 101 million worries and stresses about all of the above and life in general so it’s good to remind myself just how bloody lucky I am.

Having lived in many much less developed countries the one thing I will never stop feeling overwhelmed with gratitude for us flushing toilets

All the things mentioned here - home, kids, husband, work but at the moment - frozen banana ice cream. It’s amazing and I can’t believe it’s healthy!

Then of course there is drinking water, food, clothes, shoes, a dry room to sleep in, bedding, civil order, NHS, education, democracy, electricity, a moderate climate

People forget how wealthy and privileged we are in the uk, if you have a safe and secure home

I have so much to be grateful and thankful for. I have a wonderful husband who I love very much, and two beautiful daughters. We have financial security - certainly not loaded but my husband and both have jobs that are fairly secure and we live a lovely area. I feel loved.

I do moan about lots of things - my house needing decorated, my weight being the two that get most time. It’s good to reflect on the positives and see the bigger picture.

I lost my beautiful mum 3 weeks ago. We’ve had a very difficult year due to her health and I’m feeling very sad at the moment. My 7 year old told me not to be sad about losing gran but to be happy that we had her. Which is so true and which is what my darling mum would want me to do.

Different if your home is unsafe, or if you don’t have one

All the above but today mostly I am grateful for builders starting to take the old extension roof off.

Not for everyone but I see it as huge progress.
Plus the plumber came and moved a pipe today that I’ve been waiting for for a while.

And I have completed my executor duties today, transferring the last money owed. So I’m grateful to my parents for their prudence leaving me with enough inheritance to do my building work.

So all good really.

Plus I bought myself some pink champagne and flowers to treat myself as a well done for the above, to toast both parents later and to cheer myself up after a sad funeral earlier.

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All the above but today mostly I am grateful for builders starting to take the old extension roof off.

Not for everyone but I see it as huge progress.
Plus the plumber came and moved a pipe today that I’ve been waiting for for a while.

And I have completed my executor duties today, transferring the last money owed. So I’m grateful to my parents for their prudence leaving me with enough inheritance to do my building work.

So all good really.

Plus I bought myself some pink champagne and flowers to treat myself as a well done for the above, to toast both parents later and to cheer myself up after a sad funeral earlier.

Sorry for your loss 💐 I lost my mum 3 weeks ago, her funeral was last week. It’s so difficult and I just feel so desperately sad. However, I’m also proud of the funeral that we planned for her and think I will toast her this weekend when we go glamping

1. A roof over my and DH's heads - we don't own our own home and our landlord can be a nightmare, but we have a lovely place we call home and have been here over 2 years (had to move out of previous rentals because of landlords selling up and nightmare neighbours);

1. My job - I'm in the job I've been trained and qualified for over 6 years now and now working in the town where I live (I previously had to drive just under an hour every day to get to work). I work in the NHS and have worked throughout COVID so very grateful not to have been made redundant or anything;

1. My DH - I read some of the stories of husbands and partners being just horrible people and can safely say I think I bagged a good 'un! He's been unemployed for a while now, but does basically EVERYTHING at home and looks after me well - not that I can't look after myself, but it's lovely having him there.

1. The healthy little baby currently growing inside me (21 weeks now!)- after having a MMC last year, I'm so grateful to be pregnant with our rainbow baby

Thank you, my mum died a year ago today,
My dad a couple of years before that suddenly.

feels like I’ve been doing death admin forever now so I’m happy to see the back of it.

Today’s funeral was a sudden sad one too but he’d insisted on colourful clothes and lively music which was nice. I got to stand outside in the sunshine - have to find the positive rather than complaining about not being inside, I got to watch birds and butterflies which I’m sure he’d have appreciated.

I am grateful for a phone on which I can connect with people.

Harverina - sorry I should have added, my sympathies to you too 💐

Make sure you remember the good bits, especially any funny stories to tell the children over and over!

So much I couldn’t possibly list all the things I am grateful for! Over the past few months I have had a bit of an epiphany how truly lucky I am for what I have got and what I have achieved. I still have days where I’d rather some small things are changed but I’m trying to change my mindset and enjoy what I do have particularly the house and garden many people would think is the lap of luxury even if it’s not Instagram worthy.

So much in general, but specifically today...

• DS has managed to get a driving test for October (technically I got it at silly o'clock this morning, but still!) Covid has meant he has missed out on so much and the total lack of available tests was really starting to get him down.

• DDog2 was extremely calm for her when a dog barked outside. We're all going on holiday in 3 weeks (for the first time) and a glimmer of maturity and good manners in her is much appreciated
• My Crew order arrived today and my cropped trousers actually look ok, not like I've slightly outgrown a regular pair

That DH is still here and still well. Just over a year ago he turned yellow and his battle with the NHS began, after lots of bodged biopsies and dragged out appointments he was diagnosed with cholangiocarcinoma and told he had six months to live. Eight months since that diagnosis he is still here (although it would be good if his oncologist would actually give a fuck and call when he said he would) and hoping to get on a medical trial soon. We have been able to marry and he is still able to enjoy whatever life he has left.

My wonderful husband left his girl friend and came back to me after 18 months.

bloodywhitecat I remember your story, I'm so thrilled that mrbloodywhitecat is doing well

My husbands good health after cancer treatment and our beautiful beautiful IVF miracle 😍

I have so much to be grateful for and I am all the time.

My loved ones are healthy, safe and warm
We live in a safe apartment in a safe country with enough to eat
We can afford treats, eating out and eventually a holiday
We have two beautiful Dcats
And particularly after this weekend when I survived a car crash virtually unscathed

I am so lucky.

My children.
Owning my own home, my exh tried to take it from me in the divorce but i managed to beg and borrow enough to keep it.
Finally having saved enough to have my garden landscaped, its been too dangerous to let the children out in until now.
Having been able to begin my masters in an area I've always wanted to work in.
Having met my amazing gf and planning on getting engaged soon.

I spent 16 years in 2 abusive relationships, I never dreamed feeling like this was even possible.