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feel like i can’t talk to my own mum about how i’m doing anymore

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marshmallowmilk · 12/07/2021 19:30

i’m 3 months postpartum and struggling quite a lot with depression/anxiety after it. just feel very lonely and worried about day to day things a lot more, and it feels a bit like everytime i fix one problem the next pops up etc. i’m okay, i just need to have a little cry and talk it out every few weeks but that’s manageable.

however i’ve noticed everytime i talk to my mum about it she flips it back on me and gets really nasty. her response to me talking about how i feel is to get snappy and say she must be such an awful mother if she’s raised me to be like this (this being temporarily struggling with my mental health). says i’m selfish and that she feels like offing herself because her life is so shit and nobody in it is happy etc etc. i just don’t know how to talk to her anymore? is this normal? i’m on a waiting list for therapy but in the meantime usually talk to my partner or mum but recently it just feels like she’s gone a bit nasty on me and it’s upsetting. don’t know what my aim is posting this but maybe an outside perspective could help as i don’t really get why she’s being like this

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Peppallama · 12/07/2021 19:33

What a horrible reaction to you trying to offload at a very difficult time in your life! I'd reduce contact and go and see a GP to help you through this stage

starpatch · 12/07/2021 19:51

I am sorry to hear that OP. I found with my mum when I had a child she just shifted her focus to my child, she doesn't seem to manage to show an interest in me anymore, although in our case its because she is aging. I try not to take it personally but it is hard.

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