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What do your kids call their cousins' grandparents?

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Blurp · 12/07/2021 15:47

I was reminded of this by the "What do your DC call their grandparents" thread... what do your DC call their cousins' grandparents (if anything - obviously lots won't know them)?

I guess in a lot of cases they'll only ever meet at birthday parties, or be talked about, but I'm curious as to what other people do. When I was younger, we called our cousins' GPs Granny/Granda Surname, same as our own GPs, but we knew they weren't our actual GPs. DH thinks this is odd and confusing and they should just call them by their first names, but I think that's a bit forward.

What do others do?

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trilbydoll · 12/07/2021 17:54

'Auntie S's mum' / 'Uncle X's dad / E's other grandma. To be honest the chance of my two being in the same room as them is very slim, if they had to address them I would suggest they used first names.

Blurp · 12/07/2021 17:59

I mean the "other" grandparents, yes. So your sibling's partner's parents.

Good to get a mix of responses here. I get that some people never see the GPs, but we're at the preschool stage where parties are basically just the child's cousins, and grandparents come along too. So at my nephew's party, he had both sets of grandparents, but we were also there with DS and DD. The other GPs always bring a small present for each child (eg a pack of sweets), so it's not as if they're all completely unaware of each other!

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Chasingsquirrels · 12/07/2021 17:59

I had loads of cousins (mum is one of 5 and dad one of 4) that grew up in the area around where I lived.
I don't recall ever meeting any of their grandparents from their other (non-blood to my parent) parent.

My dcs don't have any cousins.

My exH had 1 cousin, his cousin's other grandmother was Greek, exH knew her growing up and I met her a few times. I can't recall her name, but it was just her name not with a "familiar" in front.

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Nuuktown · 12/07/2021 18:02

‘John’s other Nana’

Or

‘John’s Nana Surname’

Crunchymum · 12/07/2021 18:58

Their names in person or "X's other granny" if talking about them.

MerlinsSaggyLeftTit · 12/07/2021 19:04

I know my DB's in laws, and before he and DSIL had DC we just used their first name, but now their cousin is there we would probably say "Edward's Granny Jane" or whatever the first time, and then Granny Jane for the rest of the visit/BBQ/party.

Names changed, obvs.

CatkinToadflax · 12/07/2021 19:06

Formally (e.g. in a thank you letter) it’s Great Auntie X and Great Uncle Y. Informally (e.g. if we’re all together) it’s Auntie X and Uncle Y, because adding in the ‘Great’ takes longer to say (and also sounds so austere). But we are quite formal in our family. My cousins and my brother and I still address the other’s parents as Auntie and Uncle, even though we’re all in our 40s.

Trinacham · 12/07/2021 19:10

Well, I think you answered your own question really. They are just a stranger to you. Don't know why anyone would refer to those people anything other than the first names, just like any other stranger. You don't call them anything!

SBAM · 12/07/2021 19:27

I think when I was younger I’ll have used their names, or Mrs X, but my cousins are all quite a bit younger than me so possibly would have been different if we’d been a similar age.
My kids have one cousin, and due to Covid there’s been no big family meet ups, but I imagine when we see them then she’ll either be called her name or ‘child’s grandma surname’

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Serena1977 · 12/07/2021 19:29

My children don't know the other grandparents of either set of cousins.

Me and dh's Dads' were only children so we were not in the situation.

MyAnacondaMight · 12/07/2021 19:30

I knew some cousins’ other grandparents, as my aunt’s PILs lived next door. I just used their first names - they were nice people, but never family as such.

Breathmiller · 12/07/2021 19:31

I was quite close to ny cousins grandparents as I was very close with my gran and her and her sister were best of friends. She was my great aunt so therefore we called her Auntie First name. Her husband uncle first name.

TECMH · 12/07/2021 19:32

My cousins used to call my Nan Mrs Surname. I never met any of my cousins other grandparents. I did know the nan of the children of my mums cousin and we used to call her Auntie X, the same as my mum did

NavigatingAdolescence · 12/07/2021 19:33

Nothing. We don’t know them. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Howshouldibehave · 12/07/2021 19:37

Nothing-they aren’t family members so wouldn’t call them anything. I would call them eg Charles and Camilla if I saw them, but my kids probably wouldn’t see or talk to them much.

onceivepostedidontcomeback · 12/07/2021 19:39

Granny/Grampa Surname here too

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