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Maggiemaggie332 · 10/07/2021 02:34

A guy got me pregnant and doesn’t want to be with me anymore due to having a citizenship now in the uk. Can he be taken to court for that ?

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Aquamarine1029 · 10/07/2021 02:37

Taken to court for what? Child maintenance? Yes. For leaving you, no.

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Maggiemaggie332 · 10/07/2021 02:40

But it seems he basically used me and got pregnant so that he could stay here ? Is there not much of a chance because it is so unfair to me after going through everything.

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MrsFin · 10/07/2021 02:50

Why does getting you pregnant mean he can stay here?

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Maggiemaggie332 · 10/07/2021 03:02

He can apply for stay due to his child being here it’s called leave to remain well something like that

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Shelddd · 10/07/2021 03:17

He can't get leave to remain because of you or the child. He needs 5 years residency first which involves minimum of 2 costly visas (totalling somewhere around 4-5k including NHS surcharge) and of course 5 years.

Letsallscreamatthesistene · 10/07/2021 06:25

A guy got me pregnant

Im assuming it was consensual? If so, you both had a hand in the pregnancy.

It is unfair if he promised to be around but then left, but im not sure what a court would do about that. They can make him support the child with money, but thats about it im afraid.

MrsFin · 10/07/2021 07:00

We're you using contraception?

Yousexybugger · 10/07/2021 08:53

Your OP is a bit confusing as I'm not sure whether he's got UK citizenship or is applying for leave to remain, whether you're currently pregnant or he's already hung around for long enough to get the evidence he needed to apply.

However, if he's applying for either a family visa or settlement as the parent of a british child then it isn't as simple as just having a kid here. He will need to show he either has sole custody of the child, a court order allowing access or evidence showing he has active involvement in the child's life. This will be quite difficult for him to obtain if you don't write any confirmation letters to that effect, or he isn't active in the child's school life, appointments etc.

I don't know about legal recourse as my background is immigration, not law.

Is the child born and registered yet? If not, I would be leaving him off the birth cert and leaving it to him to take me to court as a start.

This is the gov.uk advice, sorry, I don't know how to do clicky link on my phone: www.gov.uk/uk-family-visa/parent

RaininSummer · 10/07/2021 09:11

How pregnant are you? You do have options here to consider if not far along

dontgobaconmyheart · 10/07/2021 10:15

If he already has a citizenship it surely has little to nothing to do with your pregnancy.

Does he actually have it or does he just believe he does or believes he will get it?

Ultimately OP he didn't 'get' you pregnant, you both had sex. If contraception wasn't used that's on you both and the morning after pill is easy to obtain as is advice about termination.

I don't think indulging trying to get revenge on him because he dumped you and you want to make him pay is a good look, or something that will make you feel better.

Does he want involvement with the child?

Mamaxtwo · 09/12/2023 22:26

Can you update on this situation? I have been tricked into the same situation and the Family Courts dont seem to recognise what this man is doing in order to gain a visa. My child is born now

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