Time to move on from job

[Trews2019]

I don’t see eye to eye with my boss, he undermines me in front of my staff, criticises me regularly, doesn’t value my contribution, the rest of the management team are ‘laid-back’ putting more pressure on me, I feel I’m being pushed out in a not so subtle way, I could go on and on. I know it’s time to move on and I don’t want to wait to find a new job. I don’t have time in this role to job hunt and I’m fortunate enough to be financially secure to take my time with a job search. But I’m in my early 50s and fear of job hunting at this time of life is holding me back even though I’m more and more miserable and becoming emotional at work on a regular basis.

I left my last job with no other one to go to and that worked out find but I was my late 40s then.

Help.

Dear OP
Sorry to hear about your woes but as you know, many people are in the same boat as you.
I think you already know it will be easier for you to get another job whilst you are still working.

Do you have any A/L/Flexi time due? If so use that for your new job interviews.

Have you thought about what you will say when asked hy you left and left previous job? Rightly or wrongly some may see you as the problem - :(

Do you have HR have you complained but it is easier said than done as these bullies/misfits have their little gangs to undermine you and lol when they undermine you.

You've not said what you do - have you thought about a different line of work?

HTH

Thank you for replying. We don’t have HR as we are such a small company. Looking for a new job is a full-time job in itself so waiting till I have a new job before leaving makes me feel even more tripped. The only thing keeping me sane is I enjoy (most) of the work and I’m really good at it, I get great feedback from customers. But I feel under constant scrutiny which is starting to affect my confidence and make me feel stressed as it least once a day there is some criticism or undermining comment. If this continues it’s going to get to the stage where I resign on the spot which isn’t good for anyone. I feel there’s a plan underfoot to either manage me out of the business or significantly reduce my role.

If you are going leave anyway why not have a word with who ever is in charge about feeling like you are being pushed out.

They may pay you to go.

Thank you for the message. We are a very small company so that would be the same person. I just need to bite the bullet and re-sign professionally before I end up doing it on the spot next time he pushes me on some point or other.

Trews2019

I would try to go for a pay out. You have nothing to lose

Could you elaborate please on how I’d request that? It’s a very small company that’s not doing brilliantly financially.

I guess I could speak to the other directors but they are barely around. They always speak of me in the highest terms though - perhaps he feels threatened by that, I don’t know.

If you feel someone wants you out then I would call them out on it. Mention you feel they are forcing you out of your job and it looks a lot like constructive dismissal.

If they want you out then they need to make you redundant or come to some arrangement.

I understand what you’re saying but I don’t feel I’d win against the person. I could take legal advice I guess but I’d rather put my energies into job hunting. And I don’t want to be marked as a trouble maker and it have any impact on my next job elsewhere. I guess he’s worked all this out though hasn’t he and that I’ll leave without a fuss.

It isn’t about actually suing the company but just if you like chancing that they get worried by the words constructive dismissal if you hand your notice in that they would rather control the situation instead of the potential of getting solicitors involved even if you did bring a spurious case.

As I said you have nothing to lose as you are leaving anyway. This way you get a payoff

You sound very timid and lacking in confidence, which, if you're good at your job you really shouldn't be. I would suggest you hire a professional cv writer who will work with you to highlight all the brilliant skills you have and how to promote yourself.

Then I would rework your LinkedIn profile, pay for a 3 month subscription so you can use it more efficiently to job hunt (make sure you set your profile to 'open to recruitment'. Sign up with one recruitment agency in your field and then spend 2 hours each weekend applying online. Additionally let people in your professional network that you have worked with know that you're very keen on a new challenge.

I've recently been through the whole process and once I put feelers out it was quite quick really. Life is really too short to spend it miserable in your job. When did you last have an interview?

Last interview was 3 years ago for this role. Great idea on the CV writer. I can only use LinkedIn in a limited capacity whilst still in role but I want to focus on companies who recruit directly so I can certainly use it for that. The decision I favour at present is to resign with the offer of an extended notice period whilst cutting back my hours to 9 to 5 and using up my outstanding leave. I can then focus on job hunting in the time I’d normally be doing overtime.

Bumping for the day time crowd.