Just why!?

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My husband can get really bad health anxiety.

Every time he has an ache or pain, he immediately assumes the worst - cancer etc.

I have advised him to speak to someone about this before but he laughs it off.

Anyway, today he has announced he is going to get a COVID test. I said oh who have you been a close contact to/do you feel unwell?

And he says oh no I feel fine and not been a close contact to someone but I just feel like I need to get one 'just in case'. His mum works in a care home and has access to the rapid ones. I don't understand why he is doing this. I know some people will be absolutely outraged by my next reasoning but aside from the fact I feel like him and his mum are abusing her position by using tests for no reason, I have 2 weddings in the next 10 days and my anomaly scan which is already being done on the later side (over 22 weeks).

I know if he tests positive it is the morally right thing he has done but the other part of me thinks why on earth are you choosing to do this now for absolutely no reason?? He has 0 reason to be going to his mums place of work to do this. I am really really upset.

The rapid ones are available for everyone
You can get them sent to you or pick them up in a pharmacy

It is recommended all adults are doing tests every 3 days.

And surely before going to the hospital and weddings you would both test anyway?
You know, to protect other people?!?!

is that official advise?? I work from home, in my town I no no one doing this apart from my mum who is a teacher.

Everyone who is going to the weddings has been double vaccinated.

Also haven't been told by my midwife at any point that I need to be testing before seeing her nor my GP. I have had to see both regularly throughout this pregnancy so I am surprised neither of them have mentioned I should be testing before going anywhere.

I test before i go to doctors or hospital to protect others

I would test before going to a wedding, even tho i have had 2 jabs, because you can still catch it, still pass it on, the chance is smaller but you can still get ill

School children, teachers, hospital staff, doctor staff including reception staff, care staff, and others should be testing twice a week

Its up to individuals to test in other jobs

But i would be surprised if people have never tested themselves in this whole pandemic

You don't want him to test because you don't want a positive result to impact upon your plans. Which I do understand, but it is also responsible to test regularly - particularly if you're planning on attending social events! So YABU.

I am just saying, if that is official advice I think it's strange that no midwfie i have seen so far (3) nor my GP has mentioned that I should be testing every time. They haven't mentioned COVID to me at all actually.

It's not the social side of it at all, i admit I will be gutted at my anomaly scan being pushed back AGAIN but it's also the fact this stems from quite severe health anxiety and I suppose I do feel more frustarted by this because yes selfishly I of course want to find out if my baby is looking okay.

It's just constant - he is always looking for something to be wrong with him.

I am not asking if I am being unreasonable btw.

I thought we’re all supposed to be testing twice a week anyway?

if that is the case then fair enough but like I said I don't remember ever being told this and I certainly haven't once by any medical professional that I have come into contact with during this pregnancy.

I guess like everyone I am just fed up and upset at it all and I really really just want to know my unborn baby is okay. Utterly fed up.

YANBU - he sounds bonkers.

I haven't heard were supposed to be testing twice a week anywhere, no.

You are supposed to test if you have symptoms.

This is why infection rates seem so high now - because even asymptomatic people are testing - this time last year you couldn't even get tests. There are drive-in test sites everywhere, I think some people just do it for something to do to fill their time.

If the people who's wedding it is haven't requested everyone has a test and you don't have any symptoms, why on earth would you take a test?

Restrictions are all lifting on the 19th anyway - they WANT us all to catch it to achieve herd immunity faster and get to peak so it isn't as bad in the winter. This is why they are ditching masks etc. - a simple measure which could quite easily be kept.

You won't get rational answers on here though Op - mumsnet is not a reflection of the real world.

I'd be really angry with your DH too - in fact I couldn't even be married to such a person - I can't stand hypochondriacs!

Government have been encouraging everyone to do lateral flows at least twice a week for a while now. Anyone can order them from the government website.

Sure maybe he's an anxious person, but he's doing no harm to anyone getting tested.

The rapid tests are different to PCR tests, and as others have said, you're encouraged to do them twice a week if you do not have symptoms. They are not suitable if you do have symptoms, at that point you would get a PCR test.

The guidance is from the government, and the tests have been available since April, so I am surprised some people haven't heard of it 3 months later?

OP, even though your midwife has not mentioned it, you need to check the hospital's requirements of where you will be having your anomaly scan as many trusts now ask for you to take a lateral flow test (the rapid one) within 24hours of your appointment - many trusts allow you to do this with a test at home, some want you to visit a testing centre instead. Your partner, if attending the scan with you, will need to do one as well. If you turn up and one or both of you haven't tested, you may be sent off to do a test delaying your appointment on the day, or they may reschedule.

You can order tests from the government website.

My midwife / GP hasn't mentioned testing before appointments but I do them anyway for my own peace of mind, just as I do them for any hospital appointments.

Thankfully, he has tested negative.

I do work from home so I don't really come into contact with many people to of been told about it.

I will check my hospitals requirements though, thanks.