Usual night time anxiety

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Can’t sleep. Everything feel horrendous. Currently worried that I’m still single and old now. Why does nighttime feel so scary

I have different worries to you but I find nights hard. Can’t switch off. Over thinking everything. Sadly have passed it on to my son too. No advice just that I’m in the same boat.

I’m such an overthinker too. I’m especially bad if I I happen to wake up during the night then can’t get back to sleep thinking about inconsequential nonsense but at the time seems really important . I have found the Calm app really helpful...vast majority of the time I’m asleep before the end of the story.

I’ve been there.

You can beat it.

My best cure was to imbibe a small amount of alcohol, be it a Baileys, sherry, brandy or whatever, and then relax in bed without especially trying to sleep. (propped up with pillows?)

Eyes closed and get yourself mentally to when you had good times, like a fab party, or a lovely holiday, and try and really live in that moment if you can.

That tends to work for me.

Audio nooks set to a 15 or 30 min sleep timer help

I listen to sleepcasts on headspace.
They knock me out every time as effectively as taking melatonin does.

I am like this too. I wake up in the middle of the night panicking. It’s shit. These things help me: tire yourself out with exercise and drink camomile tea before bed. Sex also helps a lot!

Sorry just saw you’re single. What I meant by sex is a good orgasm - so perpahs some toys

I'm in the same boat.

Resort to nightol occasionally.
I have some sleep headphones (like a hairband) that I use so that I don't disturb dp.

Agree that sex/orgasm is good. But I then need to read afterwards for about half an hour to allow the adrenaline to wear off. (Sorry if bit personal- but it is a game changer).

Also- have found changing my inner dialogue is useful. I used to get fixated on how shit I'd feel as a result of not getting sleep. I now tell myself that many many people get way less sleep than me. And if I did actually feel so rubbish, I could call in sick and make up another excuse and rest. Just telling myself that takes the pressure off and helps me drift off.

Good luck and sending you zzzz's.