Do you consider yourself lucky or unlucky?

[FreeBritnee]

I’ve been pondering this for quite a while. I consider myself pretty unlucky. Lots of bad things have happened to me in my life and generally I’m the sort of person that won’t win competitions or prizes or hardly ever get a win on the Premium Bonds etc.

My partner on the other hand is a pretty jammy sod. However I think I’m starting to taint his luck, like I’m a bad omen and it’s starting to worry me 😬

Do you believe in luck or do you think it all comes down to perception or generating your own luck, making lemonade out of lemons etc. I would t say I’m a pessimistic person generally, more of a realist, but I’m absolutely not an optimist that’s for sure!

Not lucky in terms of winning things (although that’s probably because I don’t enter them)

But incredibly lucky to live in the U.K. where DP and I both have very well paid jobs, we live in a lovely area, have lots of friends and have lots of disposable income to enjoy a really lovely life together. I honestly think about how lucky I am to have the life I do most days.

My first thought was I'm not six.

Unlucky.

I’ve tried my hardest in life but something always stops me from achieving what I want, or to get anywhere. Bizarre things, wrong place, wrong time things.

We’re trying to buy a house - everything that could go wrong, every delay that could possibly happen is happening.

I don’t know if it’s bad luck, or if I’m just not meant to ‘be’ or do anything.

I’ve just accepted my lot in life now.

Unlucky.
Attitude has nothing to do with it either.
As a kid I was always the one that got the broken toy, who’s craft got damaged by the leaky pipe in school, who’s project got squashed whilst being marked -you get the idea.
Even my sibling has said I seem to have a really hard life with rotten luck. She, on the other hand, seems to always get luck health, wealth & happiness wise.
My poor DS is the same as me. Despite being first at the ‘breakfast with Santa’ he was the only one who didn’t have a present ready in the sack to be given him, the one who’s prize always has something missing/broken/spelt wrong or whatever, the only birthday boy at his own party that the play centre messed up pass the parcel so his friend got the prize. Poor kid. I hope his luck gets better as he grown up!

@Paddling654

My first thought was I'm not six.

Miaow.

I consider myself lucky (in cards as well as life).

But OP, try reading The Luck Factor: a Scientific Study of the Lucky Mind by Richard Wiseman for an interesting perspective on why "lucky" people tend to make their own luck.

Lucky to have been born in a civilised country, in a time of peace and modern convenience.

Lucky in love.

Lucky in looks and health.

Extremely bloody unlucky in my failure of a career. So near and yet so far so breathtakingly many times.

Lucky in lots of areas of my life, happy marriage, supportive husband, wonderful sons, lovely home, financially stable.

But very unlucky with my health unfortunately.

Unlucky. I enter loads of competitions, Raffals ect and I've never won a thing in my life. I never even won any games as a child at parties. I started to hate going to friends parties because I would always lose on pass the parcel. Never even won the little gift between every other wraps!

I’ve worked hard to get a career but live in an area where pay isnt great so felt like a waste of time.

I would just love something good to happen to me

Had my fair share of shitty experiences in life but overall I’ve been pretty darn lucky.

It's interesting that a few posters have related being unlucky to not winning things, is it perhaps the definition of lucky that is changeable? I would never have thought about it this way.

I consider myself to be fairly lucky - never won a thing though!

A lot of it is perception I think. I consider myself neither lucky nor unlucky, bad things happen to people from all walks of life but I think there is always someone who is worse off than me. I must admit that working in a children's hospice very much changed my views on life. luck and how we deal with it.

I've come to terms with being unlucky, but its shit.

Very lucky I think, despite a couple of massive things eg death of a parent when I was little that others (I'm looking at you Prince Harry) might use to cast themselves as unlucky.

Lucky to be born British, into a stable and happy fairly well-off family

Lucky in intelligence and looks

Lucky to have had a good education

Lucky to have met a kind DH and have fantastic children. God this sounds dreadfully smug, but you did ask.

There are three pretty major downers, one being death of a parent and the other two being very outing, but I still consider myself very lucky.

I think its mostly perception. For example I have a 5 in a million health condition. But it happens to be very mild. So I consider myself lucky.

Also I believe in hard work as a success strategy rather than hoping the universe will provide. I don't trust anything!

Saying that, I am absurdly lucky in competitions: lucky dip, holiday, ££ at fair, quizzes, sweepstake
. But I don'rt enter a lot so maybe its pperception.

Ia lso have this other kind of luck where I often get my logic confused but it turns out alright in the end. I don't quite get that one! F

Not sure what happened to my text.

@Paddling654

My first thought was I'm not six.

Lovely 🤭

I can remember reading something where they studied people who considered themselves lucky over those who considered themselves unlucky and I remember part f it DSC the lucky people were able to spot opportunities whereas the unlucky people missed them completely.

I believe I have been very fortunate in many respects and am thankful for it. However I never take it for granted.

VERY lucky but not in the sense of winning prizes, more in the grand scheme of life, it has been easy for me so far.

I recently said to someone who lives on a houseboat ‘lucky you!’ and was met with a snotty ‘nothing lucky about it, it’s a choice, you could do it too’ 🙄 well I COULD but I have 2 kids with many hobbies (ie equipment) so sounds like a nightmare for right now. Anyway she then broke her leg and was tricky to get help to her so maybe not so lucky.

Very unlucky - even DM has commented on it. DH originally decided to ask me out thinking I was a magic pixie dream girl who would bring some chaos into his life (he was 18, we can forgive him) - he has said several times that he should have been more careful what he wished for.

I have achieved a lot in my life, but it has been through sheer force of will and refusal to give up, in the face of lots of setbacks (unpredictable ones, like deaths and natural disasters, not predictable or avoidable ones like job losses or projects failing).

Overall very lucky.

Healthy children, a marriage I am happy in, decent job and good home. Good friends and no major health issues.

Absolutely zero luck in competitions, lottery etc, but in the grand scheme of things I will STFU and be grateful.

Not lucky in terms of no bad things happening (sadly) but I am fortunate and grateful for what I do have.

I'm very very lucky so far. In all aspects of my life. (So far).

Lucky, life always works out for me. I've never been rich but when I've needed money for something it has always come into my hands. My late partner used to comment on how lucky I was and how unlucky he was, he would get opportunities but they never quite worked out, he would die horrifically before he was forty.

Definitely lucky but brave too, happy to make bold decisions on my gut feeling but then is that a bit chicken and egg, it's easier to make decisions when you are confident they will go well?