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Twenty years ago tomorrow since my DH died...

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Elderflower14 · 07/07/2021 19:54

Just sitting here reflecting..
Poor Ds2 found his Dadda and couldn't wake him up. Its has a profound affect on him. It was two days before his fifth birthday.
It doesn't feel like twenty years. He was so proud of ds2.
We lost ds1 at two hours old so ds2 was our little bonus boy.
DH was thirty four years older than me. To me it didn't matter a jot. Made him extra special.. He was in the SAS and trained all the men who went into the Embassy in 1980.
Twelve years ago I was lucky enough to be invited to a Special Forces Day and met two of the men who worked with DH. They were such lovely guys. I bought their autobiographies and they wrote lovely messages for ds2 about his Dadda.
He had a wonderful sense of humour too... People used to stare at us when we were out. One day we were having lunch in a smart cafe. Three older ladies kept staring at us and nudging each other which DH picked up on. He leant across the table and said in a loud stage whisper and a wink "WHAT TIME WILL YOUR HUSBAND BE HOME?" I replied "IF WE LEAVE NOW WE WILL HAVE TWO HOURS IN BED!!" 🤣
The ladies were really twittering as we got up to go!
F you were wonderful and loved so much... 💙

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BlackeyedSusan · 07/07/2021 19:56

so sorry. too soon. poor wee lad. (who is probably a great big man now)

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DoubleHelix79 · 07/07/2021 19:59

He sounds like a wonderful man Flowers

MrsCatE · 07/07/2021 20:00

Flowers handhold - how awful you both lost DS1 and wonderful how you both appreciated gift of DS2. Lovely you shared such humour! Xx

IHaveBrilloHair · 07/07/2021 20:01

Love you and thinking of you all, always. X

bearlyactive · 07/07/2021 20:02
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flossletsfloss · 07/07/2021 20:06

💙 sounds like you had something that some people never have. 💙

Workinghardeveryday · 07/07/2021 20:08

So sorry for your loss xxx

Elderflower14 · 07/07/2021 20:08

He left me a white feather a day early. Found it in the kitchen at work earlier...

Twenty years ago tomorrow since my DH died...
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Fluffycloudland77 · 07/07/2021 20:10

I’m sorry you lost him, you have learnt the pain of it earlier than us.

squee123 · 07/07/2021 20:13

I'm so sorry to read this, but also so pleased to hear what a wonderful husband he was to you, even if he wasn't by your side as long as you would both have wanted x

Elderflower14 · 07/07/2021 20:13

I have since lost my DP too three years ago... I do have something to look forward to. His 2 daughters and d. in. law are all having babies within the next 6 weeks. I'm going to be the Gangsta Granny...

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Elderflower14 · 07/07/2021 20:14

That is DPs family not DHs.

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PleaseReferToMeAsBritneySpears · 07/07/2021 20:25

He sounds like a wonderful man. Thank you for sharing your memories with us. I enjoyed reading about him. You were lucky to have had that time with him and I'm sorry you didn't have longer. Thanks

makingmyway10 · 07/07/2021 20:27

He sounds wonderful. Flowers

Elderflower14 · 07/07/2021 20:32

I met him as he was a friend of my father. I walked into the pub saw him sat there and thought. I'm going to marry him.. Ds2 godmother reckon2d that everyone else had given up on me so she thought she'd give me to the SAS! 🤣

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IHateCoronavirus · 07/07/2021 20:38

He sounds wonderful. Treasure your feather and your happy memories Flowers

EarringsandLipstick · 07/07/2021 20:42

Sounds like you had a wonderful relationship. I'm sorry for your loss, and for your (then) little DS. I'm sure there were tough times for you, but sounds like you did great and found happiness again, sorry your DP passed away too. ❤️

Babygotblueyes · 07/07/2021 20:49
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mineofuselessinformation · 07/07/2021 20:50

You have some wonderful memories.
I'm sad for you that you don't still have him too. Thanks

BlackAlys · 07/07/2021 20:53
Thanks
siblingrevelryagain · 07/07/2021 20:53

Grief is the price we pay for love

I’m sorry you’ve had more than most, but you’re lucky to be and have been so loved

Enjoy being a Granny-the next generation are coming along to give you more love

Wishiwasrunning2 · 07/07/2021 21:00
Thanks
takemetomars · 08/07/2021 05:32
Thanks
Pennybubbly · 08/07/2021 05:35

What unbearably sad losses you've experienced. But your positivity and love shines through nonetheless in your post. For you 💐

Elderflower14 · 08/07/2021 07:15

Thankyou everyone... Just hoping Ds2 will be okay... He has made sure he is busy every day this week..

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