Moving away from home town

[Jaz139]

Hey,

Just wanting people thoughts on moving away from your home town.

Me and my husband are in our 30s and have 2 children 14 and 10.

We've always dreamed and said we would move away and from my point of view maybe away a dream..
But my husband really not happy at the moment with his work life and is stuck in a rut and he wants to move away.

I'm really not sure if I want to do that but we're we live jobs in his industry there isn't many, he is saying it doesn't want to move too far away maybe 2-3 hours by car.

I'm willing to look, but I hate change, at the moment we rely on family twice a week to have the kids until my husband gets home from work and I work more weekends so we dont need childcare. I know they are getting older and we won't always need family to help.
We don't really have alot of friends as they have moved away themselves or in my instant I lost alot of them with having my daughter when I was younger.

We do see family on the weekends and are close to them, I think aswell I suffer with anixety and the last few years I struggle with driving on the motorways and long distances so this also makes me think, I can't just jump in the car and go back home to see family when I want as it wouldnt be too easy for me.

Has anyone moved away and it's worked out?

I did it’s quite tough, I’m about it go out but will come back to thread. Sounds more like it’s job related an don’t the area?

I moved at 23 to my husband who had also moved from the same town at 16.

He came out of the forces at 22 and I moved to be where he was based and we felt we would have a better chance of jobs there. We are both, 30 years later, in those same jobs and 2 hours away from our parents.

Our children were both born here, so this is now their home and we've been here longer than there, so it feels home here for us too.

Yes, as you can tell, it worked out.

I'm sure it will if your jobs and schools are sorted.

As we get older though it's more difficult seeing parents and I worry what will happen if they "need me". As we have work here and deep roots and they have no real ties but moving would be a strain the older they get. 2 hours each way is do able in a day but we can't pop around every day.

I would say that's the biggest disadvantage.

In terms of childcare, my parents looked after the children in school holidays. Sometimes here, sometimes there, in summer a bit of both. They are still very close to them.

We had to arrange and pay for childcare otherwise and that was expensive for the pre school years.

Interestingly, both out children have moved away from us. One 7 hours away. It meant they could get the right careers and not just pick from the ore restricted options available here.

It's a shitty time to move a 14 year old in terms of picking up new friendships and, unless you get moved within the next 2 months, they'll be moving partway through GCSEs (assuming England/Wales).

DP and I left our childhood hometown 3 years ago and moved near the coast. We moved with two sons aged 3 and 12. Eldest son started high school towards the end of year 7 and made friends on the first day. Youngest son settled straight into Preschool. It's honestly the best decision we've ever made. We are now fully settled, both have better jobs and kids are alot happier. Way of life is so much better too. Do it, otherwise you will always wonder, what if? Good luck OP.

If you are going to move then surely it needs to be now with a 14 year old who I am assuming is in year 9. Some schools do some GCSEs over 3 years which means content has already started. Also your 10 year old would be in year 5 and so applications for secondary would also need to be considered and cannot start unless you are actually in the new location.

Would you also be getting a new job? How easy would it be for you?

Dh and I have lived in several places, we are from the same home town. We have been over 3 hours away but that was before our children were in school and we have moved twice since but for the last move kept the same primary school and moved in catchment for an amazing secondary school.

I feel like time is against you in this in terms of housing and schools. It is a pressured situation.

I don't have any close friends who haven't moved away from their home town so its do-able subject to making the right choices but I agree that it's poor timing now with a 14yr old.

I'm a 3-hour flight from "home", dbro is 18+ hours. We all manage. No help from grandparents for any of us.

You move, you make new friends, get new jobs, life goes on.

I think the real issue is your DH job plus do you have a specific place to move to because if it’s a holiday resort then you need to think about what it is like out of season. I grew up in a rural idyll, people are always shocked I moved but there was really not much there. What area are you thinking of? Bad time to move your 14 year old and housing situation is currently at it’s worse for a long time.

Thanks for all the reply.

At the moment it's just in talks, but it was playing in my mind and I needed to get it off my chest to see how it has worked for other families.
My DH is just really struggling and not happy with his work life and he's been in his industry for 15 years and the jobs are just not that good we're we currently are.

We would be looking to move more inland as at the moment we life fairy close to the coast.

Yes I would prefer to leave it longer as my children have only both got 2 years left at school, I think I would feel more better about it then to be fair.

I would hopefully transfer my job to the area of what we chose if it happens as the company I work for has place in all of England but its something I would need to get sorted.

We would have to go and look for areas and all of that and make sure everything was in place and sell our current property, its all big decisions that me and my DH need to speak about properly.