I'd be grateful for a bit of guidance.
We have the misfortunate to be locked in what is essentially a commercial relationship concerning some managed property with a bullying controlling man that I am physically afraid of.
Because I am frightened of him there are some points we have judgments on and some points where we don't agree his position that I have never written to him about/argued about. This is because he likes to escalate confrontation whereas I want to have a life!
Earlier this year he made false accusations against me to the police who took them seriously because (it turned out) they were one of a string of complaints he had made over the years, usually coinciding with his civil court failures. Thankfully that is all finished now but I am nervous about the future because I still have the management responsibilities and he still stands by his contrary position.
He is opportunistic and in many ways knows what he is doing. I've gone through the Freedom Programme which has helped enormously - I recognised him instantly. Especially the part about how the dominator isn't genuinely angry but deliberately works himself up.
I think I know the answer to this but - to protect myself from further allegations - do I need to write to him spelling out our position in the commercial dispute relation to the land we manage? So that I can show the letter to the police if he tries again? And if so, ought I to ask the police to have a copy on my file? Or would that be inappropriate?
I was taken by surprise when I got called in for interview and I was full of emotion and fear that somehow I must be wrong, he must be right, etc, etc, so I didn't raise the commercial dispute point in interview - I was too scared of getting a detail wrong and therefore being accused of dishonesty (that is how he operates).
Thank you.