Witty comebacks to negging

[mintylovely]

I'm currently experiencing the joys of negging from a couple of members of an online group/community I'm in. It's all so predictable and tedious. If you have any witty comebacks to this sort of stuff please share them.
So far I've had comments on my age, been told I have a vibe that's hated by men, had my ability negged despite me thrashing them in the league

Can you just leave the groups? Or take a break from active membership?

Explain to one friendly (but gossipy) person that it's because of the negative posting and that the atmosphere is not for you.

Comebacks tend to encourage the behaviour, and normalise it as 'bants'

Thank you @AuntieStella most people are great so would hate to leave, I have told one loud person. You're right though, it isn't harmless banter and I don't want to encourage it. I've blocked them on all other social media.

It’s hard to think of something that won’t just get you in to a slanging match. Maybe just repeating the phrase ‘You’re too kind.’ to every remark they make regarding you. Other people won’t notice it (except as possibly slightly sarcastic), so you don’t look antagonistic. But hopefully the negger will get the hint that it’s code for ‘Fuck off’.

Thanks @Shelby2010 I do a good eyeroll that will help reinforce it

Ignore them. Any reaction is oxygen to their bullshit.

I wouldn't engage, it encourages them. You're right though, it's not ok.

Can you report it? Or post their comments on twitter to get support? Assuming this won't land you in bother- I don't know about the legalities.

Are they negging you though? It sounds as though they're salty that you're beating them.

Difficult to come up with responses when I don't know what they say.

If it's only the same few men and not the culture of the group then I would comment about it to other people, not to the men themselves because they're not worthy of your attention.

eg "John was negging me again because I did better than him at X even though he knows he's better than me. Sometimes I wish I had the deluded self-confidence of a mediocre man." Follow with several laughing emojis and an eyeroll.

Thank you, you're right I'm going to take the high road of ignore, don't engage but drop in the odd eye roll.

Give them a donut emoji everytime

Replying only excites them, the best reply to this nonsense is radio silence. Much like people who ‘like a debate’ so they can ‘play Devil’s advocate.’ Only thing you can do is ignore.

@Polkadots2021

Give them a donut emoji everytime

Is the doughnut emoji code for 'arsehole'? I'm trying to think back now whether I have ever used the doughnut to mean doughnut and inadvertently offended someone. I hope not, I'm more of a cake person anyway (is cake secret code for anything?)