in-laws!!

[Missushbb]

this hasn't been an issue for the last year obviously; but i really hate seeing my inlaws at the one time, so parents in law, and my DHs sisters and their husbands. i just find it too much! i don't mind as much one to one or a couple at a time, i just really feel overwhelmed when it's all of them. they are each quite annoying! i'm sure i am too, i'm not perfect by any stretch or the imagination.
does anyone else feel like this?!
we have all met up twice in the last year, but before covid it was every sunday!! unless i put my foot down to DH!

You don't have to go.
Arrange to meet with friends or go shopping with a simple ' Sorry, I can't come this week'.Repeat

Every Sunday is far too much.

Unfortunately this is the family you married into. Did you not know them before you got married?

It always amazes me the posts on here where the OP seems to have had an epiphany that the person they have married has a family of origin/way of interacting with that family that they don’t like.

All you can do OP is not go. You can’t stop your partner doing what he wants to do, and you can’t stop your in-laws from being who they are.

You don’t get married in a vaccum, you decided that this was your extended family when you got married 🤷‍♀️

Also - I wouldn’t take kindly to my DH attempting to ‘put his foot down’ over whom I see and when!

excuse me, i think every single week is a bit much. of course no one gets married in a vacuum.

Let your DH go to his family every Sunday, if he wants but there is no one holding a gun to your head saying that you have to go with him.
Go when you want to.
Don't forget though, that when you decide to go visit your family, your DH might turn around and be less interested in visiting. He'll be doing the same as you, and deciding who and when he visits his inlaws.

well he never comes to my family and it doesn't bother me. anyway; they sunday thing was before covid. what i was asking was does anyone else find lots of family at the one time overwhelming?

And what if your family had the same expectations? So you would never have a single day free at the weekends to see friends or do things together?

In your shoes I’d be telling DH that I’d be going once a month or so, depending on other stuff going on. It’s a shame you fell in with it in the first place.

Why every Sunday? I would hate to have to meet up with someone every Sunday so you could never have your own plans

Op I think many of us would find one of only two days off a week devoted to full in laws too much.

Don't go.. It's liberating!

To those who say we don't get married in a vacuum, no we don't but we also sometimes have no awareness of the green eyed monster rearing it's head from mils or sil or the sense of ownership some in laws have over dc etc m