So unhappy with my life.

[Bookaholic73]

Before I start, I just want to say that I’m not suicidal or anything.

I’m just unhappy with about 99% of my life, and I have no idea where to start with changing it.
Most of it I can’t really change.

I don’t know if I’m asking for advice, support, both, neither or something else.

My house is almost always untidy. I used to be proud of how lovely my house was.

I am so overweight but can never stick to a diet. I have gained so much weight.

My job is good pay but not what I want to do. I’m self employed and love the flexibility, but it’s not where my heart lies.

I’m permanently exhausted.

I have huge stress with my husbands kids.

My older son (24) is disabled, and is going through a particularly tough time at the moment.

I waste money on too much food, so we are always skint.

I just want to run away for a couple of weeks, be by myself and relax.

No idea why I’m posting this, I just felt the need to ‘say’ it.

Oh OP.

I don’t have much advise because i’m pretty much in the same boat. Especially the food and weight issue.

I want you to know you aren’t alone.

I get the house thing too. I look at my house now
and it’s like I don’t live here. The old me would never have a thing out of place. I don’t know what’s happened to me.

Just wanted to sympathise. When it feels like everything needs sorting to some extent it sounds overwhelming and like it's difficult to know where to start. And it sounds like you've got a lot to deal with. I sort of feel similar (worries about children, friends, diet, lack of exercise, work, house etc) and I've also been wanting to 'say' it, so again, you're not alone.

I think doing something towards one thing might help you feel more able to address another area, particularly if you could maybe develop a habit you find helpful. So for example if you could develop the habit of making sure one bit of your house was always tidy before going to bed that might help you feel you could also make a small change to what you eat and so on.

Some of the other things sound like they need talking through - what's the issue with your husband's kids for example?

I've seen something somewhere about a circle made up of segments for areas of your life and you rate them and make a plan for small improvements, I don't know if that feels doable at the moment.

But mainly I think it is tough to deal with things when you feel exhausted and your home feels chaotic, and I completely get that. Have you got any opportunities to have time away from your home, either a bit of time on your own during the day or seeing a friend?

Happy to try and be a sounding board if you want to talk more about any of the things you're unhappy with.