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To not want to work anymore?

16 replies

Maxmac · 06/07/2021 10:17

I really dislike my job. Just found out I didn't get new job that I was pinning my hopes on. I've always been the much much higher earner and it didn't bother me until now but I've got to the point where I hate what I do but I can't afford to take paycut or retrain as my wages pay for the mortgage. DP works full time but doesn't earn much, he works hard but is never going to be at my earning capability.

Don't really know why I'm posting this as I know I have to keep working really, just feeling quite down tonight.

OP posts:
cushioncovers · 06/07/2021 10:28

I hear what you're saying op. I haven't got anything to add but I get it.

IncyWincy21 · 06/07/2021 10:29

Feel you Thanks

MaudebeGonne · 06/07/2021 10:31

I hear you. My husband doesn't work for health reasons. It has been amazing to have one of us at home while our children are young, but it sometimes grinds that I will have to carry on working full time, and keep on trying to progress until retirement as the financial responsibility falls on me. Luckily I enjoy my job, but there are some days when I would love a choice.

Wormholes · 06/07/2021 10:33

Lol, join the club.

Alas, if I don't work, I don't eat. And this has been true for all of my hundreds of thousands of ancestors, since we first crawled out the slime.

In fact, my (boring, stressful, unfulfilling) desk job is a much better deal than my grandmothers' working lives - skivvying for pennies, without agency, without voice, without resources of any sort.

They would be so proud and thankful if they could see me, sitting down and drinking coffee (coffee!!) and pissing about on MN during the working day.

Cam2020 · 06/07/2021 10:40

Hang on in there.

I think the lack of things to look forward to for such a long time is taking its toll - hopefully that won't last much longer. Normally, having trips, nights or days out, events, holidays makes it easier to get on with. It's much easier to accept work as a, means to an end when it's funding the fun things if life you're looking forward to.

Cam2020 · 06/07/2021 10:41

@Wormholes 💖

youaresunshine · 06/07/2021 10:59

I don't want to work anymore, either.
I'm making plans to retire early at 58 (earliest I'll be allowed to!)

Pigeonorcoot · 06/07/2021 11:00

Yeah, I'm similar to @MaudebeGonne

It sucks!

Mischance · 06/07/2021 11:02

You have one life......do not waste it doing something you hate unless you have seriously worked on the options.

My OH spent his life doing a job he hated........then he died. What a waste of life.

Original poster
Maxmac · 06/07/2021 11:13

@Mischance this is my worst nightmare, that I miss out on my children growing up.

@MaudebeGonne it's so so hard being the main earner.

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FrogFairy · 06/07/2021 13:06

Do you have any options such as downsizing to a smaller house with perhaps the chance to at least go part time?

Life is too short to spend being miserable.

Ewe202 · 06/07/2021 13:09

Totally hear you maxmac!

wtfisgoingonhere21 · 06/07/2021 13:14

Hear you

Am currently making plans so in the next 18 months my work life balance will be totally different to now and il be earning more than I am now.

I won't want to retire early then because il be enjoying and earning well when I want.

It's a big plan but def achievable.

Is there no flexibility in your job role or lifestyle to allow you less working?

Shehasadiamondinthesky · 06/07/2021 13:17

Its a killer, I've been working for 40 years full time and I've only just found a job I LOVE!
Keep applying for jobs, don't give up. Even if you don't get them the interview experience is so valuable.
I think I did around 20 interviews before I got this one and I moved across the country for it but it was well worth it.

memberofthewedding · 06/07/2021 13:25

I think the lack of things to look forward to for such a long time is taking its toll - hopefully that won't last much longer. Normally, having trips, nights or days out, events, holidays makes it easier to get on with. It's much easier to accept work as a, means to an end when it's funding the fun things if life you're looking forward to

I think there is a lot of truth in this. Many people put up with less than satisfactory or fulfilling jobs on the promise of spending quality time with the family, leisure pursuits or an active social life. All this has been taken away from the majority of the population for over a year. So those who had shit jobs had no compensation, Plus the additional stress for many of homeschooling, being on top of one another, trapped in one room, crappy neighbours, etc. And no way to really blow off steam outside the home.

I think if there is a U turn now there would be a riot because people in general have had enough of being told what to do by the aristos in Whitehall.

SinkGirl · 06/07/2021 13:25

What would you do if you developed serious health issues tomorrow and could no longer do your job?

Hopefully that won’t happen to you - but it could. And you would have to find a way to manage on much less money. Are the things you’d have to do (eg. down size your home, reduce outgoings etc) things you could do so that you could follow a different career path that brings in less?

My income is severely limited by my own health issues and the fact we have two disabled children. Working full time isn’t possible so I’ve had to find ways to bring in as much as I can within my own capabilities.

If DH (who brings in more than triple what I do) couldn’t do his job anymore, we would have to figure something out. If he detested his job and was miserable we would figure something out.

I guess you have to weigh up priorities - do you hate your job so much that you’d rather have less money and do something else?

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