Anyone else overweight and ditched the diet?

[FedUpDieter]

I just can't diet anymore.

I am 4 stone overweight, BMI is 33.

I've tried every diet there is. I've tried going back to basics, not dieting - eating unprocessed foods etc. I've done slimming world, weight watchers, fasting, Cambridge, calorie counting, low carb.

I have no willpower and I am a huge emotional eater.

I am also peri-menopausal, my mood fluctuates hugely.

I'm under constant stress - kids with SEN and associated fighting for their needs to be met plus the general day to day care etc.

I have anxiety myself, I'm very self conscious and not confident at all.

I'm worried if I just stop dieting I will end up putting more on. But I think the dieting and restricting is adding to me being down. It's a vicious circle.

Does anyone have any advice or experience please? I'm literally at the end of my tether with it.

Not saying I know what I'm talking about but I think you need to shift your mindset. Eating healthy does not have to be complicated. Take the stress and pressure off yourself and when you feel like you've had a bit of headspace , try and make very small changes that are sustainable. It's not a race to get the weight off. Things like drink a big glass of water before starting a meal. Limit snacking. Etc

Can you exercise at all? I'm trying to get into a routine with this as I always go too hard and too heavy then fall off completely.
So now I'm aiming for 3 x 25 mins indoor cycling a week. And that's it.

Have you tried the 5:2 diet, there's a fantastic running thread on here and I love how it's a way of life rather than just about the weight loss

You've got a lot going on and my heart goes out to you, I can relate a little x

I could've written this as well btw 🙈

I've recently had a referral to the local health board dietitians and they are running a support group, with everyone saying the same thing about being fed up. After having a very poor interaction with the dietitian a few years ago, I wasn't expecting much but it's really good.

They are moving away from calorie counting and more into managing portions and macros. It looks like it's based on Precision Nutrition's work and they have a calculator to work out how much food to eat, based on goals. It's been really good to have some support too. Very well organised. I've been surprised!

One of my close friends is a coach specialising in helping women to love the bodies they have. She's so passionate about exactly what you describe, stepping off the diet/ binge cycle and loving who you are. She's been there and done it and is now so much happier and more confident. I think for her it started by watching the film embrace- by Taryn Brumfit.
You can find her on fb as Seascape Blue. I wouldn't normally advertise but she's fab and it might help you.

Read The Fuck It Diet.

Me. I'm 52 now and have been on one diet or another since my early 20s, I am pretty much the same size.

I give up, this is clearly the size that my body is supposed to be.