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Please help pull me out of this sad rut

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sugarcoffee · 05/07/2021 16:14

I am a mum of two - a 3.5 year old and a 9 month year old who I love to pieces. However since my baby was born last year (in full lockdown) I am feeling increasingly sad and trapped in my life. Before I had my children I had a very active social life, lots of fun and friends and a good career. When I had my first child I chose to take a step down career wise and no longer work at the level I used to. We also moved out of London and since lockdown and the challenges of having two children I have realised I have very few friends left. I am feeling so unhappy with where I live, generally lonely most days and also resentful of my husband who's career is going from strength to strength. I am due to go back to work in September and I am dreading it because I know the juggle with two children will be so tough and I feel like I have really sold myself short in my current job.

I really feel so lost and lonely and a shell of my former self. How do I get myself back again?

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July2mebabywouldJuly2me · 05/07/2021 16:18

OP - take it from one who let her career go and decades later seethes with resentment sometimes: sort this out with your husband!

They are the children of both of you so he needs to do an equal share - even if that means him taking a step down too.

sugarcoffee · 05/07/2021 17:59

July2mebabywouldJuly2me I feel like its too late - I stepped down a level 3 years ago. Also I feel so tired that I'm not sure I have it in me to step up again. Then there is all the time off you have to take due to illness etc. I really feel like the old me has died some days - I know this sounds very dramatic!

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KILNAMATRA · 05/07/2021 18:42

Get a babysitter and go out on your own without your babies. You might just be having a bit of care burnout. Ho to gym ot hill walking group or something baby free. If your husband cant or wont help, pay for it, and go have some headspace. You've had huge life changes, and sacrifices have been made.. Happy mommy, happy babies! You'll enjoy them more if you have breaks, and in September you'll have a whole load of reception Mommies to get to know...

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