Some stress going on at work so could be over reaction..
Pre covid I worked evenings and weekends. This meant house stuff and kid stuff was mine to deal with. Fine. Dh worked an hour away and played golf.on the weekends for years when the kids were little, although hasn't in a few years.
During lockdown I switched jobs to night shift. Dh had kids during the day while I slept and wfh. He said this was a lot, which I agree with, as kids were homeschooling. I did do cleaning the house, preparing meals before I went to work etc.
So a few months ago i switched to days on shifts. Usually 7am-6pm or 11am-9pm. If I am on the 11 shift I do the school drop off then go in as it is approximately an hour and a half commute. Dh does pickup. Other days he does both.He is still working from home. I am rota'd approximately 50hours so with the commute I appreciate I am out of the house a lot.
The chores are split. I might put something in the slow cooker or he cooks. On my two days off I cook. He washes the clothes, I sort and fold. Cleaning is still mine. Although he does sort the kitchen. Kid admin is split.
Anyway, my point... he has been doing the grocery shopping as we usually do it on a Saturday and I al usually working. I have a day off, he is poorly.
So I am doing the shopping today.
He is going on about how to use the loyalty card, how I need to go through the fridge to check what's being eaten and what we need. To remember to take bags. Commented I hadnt gone yet when he goes out early. There was loads to do, did I want help.for reference the things to do was stick on a wash, shopping and tidy the kitchen.
All the kids wanted to come. Fine by me. It his point was thisnis why he does it early, before the kids get up. I dont mind?!
Then when i was out, texting me that I needed to go to x and y and get x and y.
I HAVE BEEN DOING THIS FOR YEARS WITH NO HELP AND MANAGING, I KNOW HOW TO DO THE SHOPPING. Just cos you happened to do it for a couple of months doesn't make me forget and cos indo it different doesn't mean it's wrong.
And breathe!