Should I tell my friend I'm pregnant?

[Element12]

I have found out this week I'm pregnant after a chemical pregnancy/miscarriage in February. I am only 5 weeks and 1 day.

My friend has invited me and another friend to her house. She bought some tequila and some margarita mix and will make some cocktails and serve it with prawns for us, so obviously is making a big effort. Afterwards, we will go out for dinner in a nice restaurant.

I haven't told anyone about my miscarriage, as it was too devasting.

I'm not really feeling comfortable sharing my pregnancy that early in case something happens again.

I also feel bad though lying about why I can't drink - she has obviously made an effort and spent a considerable amount of money to cater for us tomorrow.

What would you do in my situation?

Say you have a UTI.

Say you’re on antibiotics and can’t drink

You’re on antibiotics.

And allergic to prawns.
You might even need to drive as you have an early start the next day.

I'd probs just tell my friend to be honest...

Or if you really don't want to perhaps you (or partner) has developed a cough and needs a Covid test.. can't be too careful the way the new variant is spreading!

Thanks everyone for your suggestions. I suppose I feel a bit bad lying, because I know she was really looking forward to this and has planned it for a long while and spent money.

I wouldn't have a problem lying if this was a work event, but it feels wrong to lie in that situation somehow, difficult to explain.

on AB

best excuse.
and you don't like shellfish

If you really don’t want her to know, I’d avoid the antibiotics line…

I think you might need to find an excuse not to go, if you don’t want to tell her. Or fake a dodgy stomach and say you don’t fancy drinking/prawns?

Stuck at home / work a bit later than expected, meet them at the restaurant?

@Element12

Thanks everyone for your suggestions. I suppose I feel a bit bad lying, because I know she was really looking forward to this and has planned it for a long while and spent money.

I wouldn't have a problem lying if this was a work event, but it feels wrong to lie in that situation somehow, difficult to explain.

@Element12

not disclosing private information is not the same as lying!

you obviously have to have an excuse and you don't want to give the real one so you have no options to tell the truth at this point.
it's fine.

@EssentialHummus

I think that's a really good idea 😁 Thanks

Bring the car and just don't eat the prawns - pretend not to like them. I hate them so wouldn't eat them. Unless she's seen you eating them before she won't know.

Find an excuse and don't go... Def don't share news you aren't comfortable sharing, you'll feel bad afterwards.. Also if you can't drink, why to go to the drinks party. Congratulations by the way, hope all goes wonderfully

Prawns are OK in pregnancy so at least you can eat those!