How to not make a fool of myself on dd last day of primary school

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Anyone got any tips?

I'm already feeling emotional about it and dd doesn't leave for a couple of weeks.

Leaving primary feels like such a big thing.

For context, I've cried every time she's moved up a year, some people will think this is pathetic but it's just the way I am. I don't like change. Shes had had the same TA for 5 years too.

I just don't want to be the only parent at pick up, sobbing their heart out.

Aw OP don't worry about what other people are thinking or doing (that's good life advice in itself !) just remember it for you & your DD.

Plus as others have said you definitely won't be the only one :)

Nobody had tears at our leaving-primary events.
Maybe 2 people looked a little teary.
maybe locals are hard core council estate types?
There are So many experiences MNers talk about that never happened to me.
Not embarrassing if you cry this time. I find the yr6 assemblies fairly naff, but kids like 'em so that's ok.

I’m dreading it. They’ve made a film montage of the kids over the years, it made them cry making it so I’m screwed. I’m just going to quietly weep and hope nobody notices!

I’m just a nanny and I cried on my charges last day of primary school. Couldn’t help myself. I saw her all through the school and her brother and sister beforehand so I was also quite emotional about leaving the school myself 😂

I felt a bit silly being a nanny but you certainly shouldn’t as a parent. It’s an emotional thing.

I know I will end up crying on my ds last day, I cried when he went up to secondary school for the day!

Big pair of sunglasses and thank Covid for once because it's likely to be outside!! I am not overly emotional but cried at my Dads leavers assembly and last day! It is emotional in many ways. Try and enjoy it, hope they get to have an end of term celebration. We all went to the beach which was a nice end.

Ds is leaving primary school. I am just taking tissues with me for pick up.

One bonus of the leavers assembly being online I guess

Blimey, I didn't sob. I don't understand it, frankly. My mum didn't cry ether but I was 11 and came home from school on my own, as most did.

I've been through two, long ago and since then they have left university and moved away for work. If it helps I remember the Head saying during leavers assembly that it is 'a new beginning' and it is so true. Try and look at it this way.

Oh god I'll be in tears the day mine leave I bring balloons to the school for them to congratulate them on completing another year. It makes me feel like a massive wanker, but they both have such severe learning difficulties they struggle to even get through the door to school, let alone finish a whole year. 🤦🏽‍♀️

I didn't sob but I definitely felt very emotional.

I wouldn't judge either way 🤷🏻‍♀️.

I won't be able to pick Dd up from school as I'll be at work, I would have gotten the afternoon after if they were having a proper leaving day but their leavers assembly is virtual due to Covid but I'm sure I would have been a bit teary. Although almost all of Dds friends are going to the high school across the road so it's not as big change for her/them as it will be for others.

Oh I'll be sobbing. I've been so emotional about it since half term. Can't believe my PFB is off to secondary Working in secondary schools means I know how much they change. MY BABY!

Parents aren't invited to Leavers assembly cos covid, so at least DS will be scared my crying there!

Just accept it and cry, this will be me next year when my last child of 4 leaves primary - DS2 When DD2 (now 14) left, her and her best friend sobbed for about 2 hours straight, all through the leavers assembly which was hard to watch and even DH had to hold himself together. They really didn't want to leave as they'd had such a lovely time at school.

And lots of the other children cry too, I think it's OK as it shows what they mean to each other.

I normally go weepy at the end of year assembly when I don't have one leaving. I'll be in a right state next year when it's DS1's turn.

In my defence I had a major bereavement just as I left primary school so there's probably residual baggage tied up there from my association of being that age.

DD1 had a complete tear jerker at her leavers assembly. There was a video montage of photos and films from nursery class to the yr6 trip. They also had video messages from previous years teachers wishing them good luck. Everyone was full on ugly sobbing. From the hall everyone leaves and the rest of the school line up along the drive and high five them on their last way out of school. It was full on and very final. I think I greived for a few days after (dispite going back the same day to collect dd2).

Thanks to covid there was none of that last year for dd2.

Sunglasses and tissues

DS has brought home the words for the songs they will be singing at Leavers Assembly (outside) - I’ll Always Remember You by Hannah Montana. I know it’s cheesy but I’ve just listened to his first rehearsal and I’m in bits Hopefully I’ll hear it lots for the next couple of weeks and will harden up. They are also doing Queen’s I Want to Break Free

I will cry, I am going to try not to embarrass my daughter by sobbing lots but I remember me and my friends crying when we left year 6 over 25 years ago! I cried a couple of years ago just seeing the year 6s who I didn't know get emotional...at least then I could just wipe my eyes and walk off!!

Maybe just keep in mind that it’s not about you? I remember feeling emotional but the day belongs to the children. My children were quite frankly bewildered by the self indulgent sobbing of others. To them it was a great day, celebrating all they had done at primary school and looking forward to the future.

My last primary child left 17 years ago.
The final Y6 assembly always sang this, and just reading the lyrics at home now & remembering the joyful little voices still reduces me to a blubbering mess.
Honestly, you’re supposed to cry. Heart of stone not to

And as others have said, a lot of the children will cry too. It is a hugely emotional day.

You won't be the only one balling OP. I'm not usually emotional but my DC go to a small primary and I've felt tearful seeing some of the year 6s leave and they're not even my kids!

@MsTSwift

I was so pissed off with how hopeless the primary school were during lockdown one I didn’t feel emotional in the least - couldn’t wait to leave the whole place behind.

Exactly this! I sent three dc through that school and was generally happy with them. They were an absolute disgrace during lockdown one and the headteacher should be ashamed of herself. As I collected dd from school for the last time in March 2020, I knew it would be for the last time And I did get a bit emotional (while others looked at me like I was daft as COVID would be all done and over by Easter). I always get a bit emotional, but more so at things like assemblies/leavers shows/presentations. I don’t think there is anything wrong with that as long as you aren’t crying so much that you start everyone off.

I cried so much at dd's Infant school leavers show, but not so much when she left Juniors, interestingly. I still get teary thinking about how cute and proud of themselves they all looked at the Infant leavers show, and how small they all seemed, to be going up to 'big' junior school.

That would be me. I'm sending his dad to the leavers assembly, I just can't face crying in front of everyone.