Friendships

[LateMumma]

Old time lurker but first time poster here. I've got (had) a close group of 2 other friends and I bloody love these women. I had a bit of a mental health wobble a couple of months ago and got a bit needy, but I don't think more than that. This coincided with a new friend joining the group and I've since been pretty much excluded from joint events since. I've tried reaching out a number of times since then, and I'm feeling pretty much back to normal. I know they're getting together and involving people they met through me, but no one is reaching back. Do I just need to accept this is done and move on? I don't find it easy to make friends, so am trying not to be too 'in your face' with them, but at the same time devastated that my long term friendships seem to have ended and I'm not sure why. Any advice appreciated.

Anyone?

Can you try to talk to them and explain?

I'm glad your health is better

That’s really horrible. There seems to be a lot of friendship problems on here atm. Not sure what to suggest.

It depends what happened here * I had a bit of a mental health wobble a couple of months ago and got a bit needy*
Do they feel you behaved badly or were perhaps difficult because of your illness (sorry, don't mean to be harsh, but don't know how else to say it). I agree that's its worth talking to them and asking, but I suspect they may be fair weather friends.

When you're at your worst. You true friendships really shine through.

They're not your friends. Move on, be happy and forget about them.

Your*

That must really hurt. I'd try and be upfront. Ask them why they don't want to get back. How did you MH wobble manifest?

Thanks everyone. I had a few things happen at once and wasn't sleeping too well, so became pretty anxious. I spoke to them both at the time about it, but I think I was quite needy, although I didn't realise at the time. I wonder if I made them feel under pressure to support me when they didn't want to. I definitely bored one of them. I'm so sad that this is happening, but don't want to appear more needy by trying to speak to them about it. I think perhaps my expectations are what need to shift.

Don’t be too quick to ‘blame’ yourself. What form did you neediness take? We’re they supportive at the time? It does seem cruel to exclude you entirely.