Would this have irritated you?

[Bloomingwild282]

I was cleaning the hoover this morning, DH walked in as I was in the middle of detaching the brush. It's one of those attachments where you need something flat to unlock it. I'd grabbed DS's ruler and turned it half way but it wasn't strong enough for the job.

DH comes in and says 'what are you doing?', I replied that I was cleaning the hoover. He took the ruler off me, grabbed a fork and tried with the prongs. I said I didn't need any help. He then uses the end of a knife and it turns, he handed it back to me and I said 'wow, you're my hero'. He said 'i was only trying to help', I said 'I didn't need help, if I needed help I would have asked but if doing that has made you feeling manly then thankyou'. He replied 'well next time you need help you can shove it up your arse'. I told him again that I didn't need help! I said let's not turn this into an argument and we left it there.

Who was being unreasonable?

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it would've irritated & infuriated me and I would've had an argument until he admitted he was wrong and apologised.

I do not tolerate casual sexism in any shape or form. from anyone.

the next time anyone wants to "just help" this what you need to say:

just helping is the sunny side of just controlling.

repeat after me: Just helping is the sunny side of just controlling.

that will teach them.

YWBU he was doing a loving act or helping his wife before and incase she asked. Get off your woke horse.

@TheAlleyAlleyOh

YWBU he was doing a loving act or helping his wife before and incase she asked. Get off your woke horse.

you are very wrong.

he interfered and took over when no help was needed or requested, because he thought only he, not some silly woman, is able to fix it.

it's classic every days sexism. there's no way he would've taken over if it was another penis dangler.
you need to take off your blindfold.

Funny me and my OH had a tiff over the hoover yesterday morning too. So this post made me chuckle a little. I was hoovering and he shouted from the other room that the hoover didn’t sound right and was probably full and needing emptied. I carried on hoovering, once I got to the room he was in he said “you can’t always depend on me to empty and clean it out”. I said “you know I don’t do that job, that’s your job”. He wasn’t pleased at my response 😂

@Wonderbraaaas

Life is too short. I’d try and forgot this one and get a tea

I agree lol

Thanks for all the replies. We've had a chat, I've told him I found it patronising and over bearing. He apologised.

I was quick to snap but there is a bit of an underlying issue in this home in that he likes to joke that I'm physically weak, it boils my blood every time and yes I do frequently need help with stuff but that doesn't excuse what he did today and it doesn't excuse him using it to make fun of me. We've spoken about that again too.

Excellent work, blooming!

well done @Bloomingwild282

good for you and I'm glad he apologised