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Sensory toys for hair pullers?

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User24689 · 29/06/2021 19:28

After some advice! I have a 3.5 year old son who has, since he was old enough to grab, been obsessed with my hair. He used to twirl it while breastfeeding which was my main reason for weaning him at about 18 months but unfortunately it didn't stop the pulling/ twirling, which he continued to do while going to sleep. I know it sounds utterly ridiculous that I've let it go on this long but he has never slept well (still doesn't sleep through) and through desperation I have continued to let him stroke my hair when he wakes in the night. We have had several periods where we have been really firm on it and it has caused distress but he has stopped. But it always seems to creep back in. I have other children who have no sign of this habit! It is so bizarre. He can't sit next to me without his hands going to my hair and I'm so used to it now I often don't even notice until it starts to hurt. I must say the words 'let go of my hair' fifty times a day. So often we have tears at bedtime because I won't let him play with my hair and he wails "but I love it mummy!'

So, after some googling, I discovered there are quite a few sensory toys with the purpose of mimicking hair or somehow designed to meet the same need, whatever that need is. But there seem to be different things and different materials so I thought I would ask if any MNers have any recommendations, or have managed to overcome this habit any other way.

Many thanks in advance!

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Daisychainsandglitter · 29/06/2021 21:27

Hi OP,
I have no experience with hair pulling but I do have a child with SPD who skin picks so understand why you are asking for recommendations.
Just bumping and hoping someone can help you Smile

MarshmallowsOnToast · 29/06/2021 21:45

I'm following along.

Just a few hours ago I was bent over the side of DS's cot whilst he twizzled my hair to sleep. Was stood there for 15minutes, back hurting thinking "what the hell am I doing.. ?!"

User24689 · 29/06/2021 22:03

Thank you both

@MarshmallowsOnToast I so relate! When DS was little I used to sit in bed wincing in pain sometimes because it was easier to suffer so he would just go to sleep! The things we do....

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AprilAzpilicueta · 29/06/2021 22:06

My daughter is a hair puller, she's 21 months and I'm starting the process of weaning her off breastfeeding because she can't seem to do it without grabbing my hair then the horror twisting her little toes into it. It's awful.
I thought about buying one of those long hair extensions that you can fasten round a ponytail and letting her pull that instead but I haven't tried it yet.
I'll be following with interest!

User24689 · 29/06/2021 22:13

Hi April I hope you have success. Unfortunately for me weaning didn't work as he continued pulling anyway but I know others have found that it was strongly connected to the breastfeeding and when that went they stopped!

The hair extensions we have tried but they feel sort of synthetic and he wasn't interested in them, didn't seem to consider them a substitute!

I wonder why some kids do this.

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MarshmallowsOnToast · 04/07/2021 08:49

@AprilAzpilicueta

My daughter is a hair puller, she's 21 months and I'm starting the process of weaning her off breastfeeding because she can't seem to do it without grabbing my hair then the horror twisting her little toes into it. It's awful. I thought about buying one of those long hair extensions that you can fasten round a ponytail and letting her pull that instead but I haven't tried it yet. I'll be following with interest!
Yes! My son has just started to put his feet in my hair now too & they "grab" and hurt much more than twizzling fingers. Grrr
DaisyDreaming · 04/07/2021 09:03

I remember someone on here had a child who had to twirl her hair to sleep. She purchased a wig for the child and it worked for them!

Dotdotdotx · 22/08/2025 10:17

Hi I know this is really old but my child does this.. just wondering if yours ever stopped?

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