Starting to ' diet' today because I hate myself. Any tips.

[BiscuitsNoMore]

I'm 5ft 4 and 12st 11.
Never lost any after having dc 17m ago.

I HATE myself. I feel like a whale. I'm constantly exhausted as the 2 youngest seem to wake loads at night. Dh works long hours so I do most which is fine as I'm a sahm.
But when I'm tired I then wake up and eat crap like chocolate, cake etc

Evening meals are fine we all eat the same. And varied with plenty veg etc.

But I graze.... Alllllll day. And it's on sweets, choc, cake, crisps.

I feel depressed but that's another thread and when I pluck up courage I'll see gp (spent years of Ad's and didn't want to go back on them really)

But also I worry when I try to diet as a few years ago it was a slippery slope to an eating disorder because it was all I could control in my life at that moment.

I've had a bowl of special k so far and I'm already stressing about the rest of the day.

Wanted to do enchiladas for tea as have chicken and Peppers to use up.

Good luck!
I'm starting today too, I've literally just got off the phone to the local slimming world consultant and am going to group this afternoon.
I'm also a grazer, it's hard isn't it?!

How about we both check back in here next Monday after a week to see how each other has done?

I'm a PT, OP and just my humble opinion but over many years the clients I've seen have by far the most progress are ones who were able to take the emotions out of dieting as much as possible (and that because they're usually negative emotions, which then lower happy hormones & your brain seeks out sugar to push mood back up).

What was generally a common factor was that they all tended to have a kind of non emotional goal for weight loss, like a half marathon, or sponsored whatever it was, and they ended up focusing on that, and then on bits & bobs around the sport/activity which often becomes a hobby (making adherence to exercise easier) and so on. There was an accountability factor there too and I remember one lovely lady telling me it was the first time she'd really been assertive about carving out practice time or being firm with her routine/food intake with her family as she had a set goal to focus on & she wanted to achieve it.

I'm a massive fan of this approach as it makes fat loss more than aesthetics and also naturally builds in exercise.

Also I'd say taking vitamin and mineral supplements is great just in case your brain and body are trying to get you to eat to try to replace things you are deficient in.

Yes I'm up for checking in in a week.

The only excercise I do is walk when one is at pre school but the toddler gets bored after 30 min in pushchair.
DH works up to 16 hours a day so days and makes going alone in an evening virtually impossible but u do try when he's home.

I'll get vitamins today when shopping too.

How about dieting because you LOVE yourself and you want to be healthy and full of energy for you and your children?

Seeing things from a different perspective can make a big difference to your outlook.

Come join us on the Why we eat too much thread. It's not really a diet, just a more nutritious way of eating and everyone is losing weight easily.

I've lost just over a stone in 8 weeks and haven't been hungry or obsessed by food like I have been before on slimming world or weight watchers.

Basically it's cooking from scratch and getting rid of all processed foods and sugar.

Best advice is make changes from a place of self appreciation and love rather than self loathing and hatred.

Feed your body with heathy foods that’ll make you strong, boost your immunity, raise your energy in a sustainable way. Exercise, move and celebrate what your body can do.

If you start by punishing yourself you’ll fail at making sustainable changes.