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Anyone else find Sundays really difficult?

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beigebrownblue · 27/06/2021 17:44

I don't know what it is about Sundays, maybe it is left over exhaustion from this years home schooling, but I'm finding Sundays really difficult.

Perhaps it is being a single parent, I find it difficult to just 'be' without thinking I need to get on with chores etc.

Even though DD has finished school now, I always feel comforted by the routine of weekdays, seeing kids going to school. Post woman arriving etc.

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birdling · 27/06/2021 17:56

Yes, worst day of the week.

KingRoloIV · 27/06/2021 17:58

Yes there’s comfort in the familiar routine, I totally understand what you mean….. all those hours stretching out in front of you. Wondering how you’re going to keep the children entertained and occupied.
Takes a week or two for the readjustment, then I’m usually fine and dread the thought of the routine starting again in September….. can’t win 🤷🏻‍♀️

beigebrownblue · 27/06/2021 18:01

Oh all that helps actually, I'm not the only person feeling like this then.

With teens it seems to be so unpredictable (or spontaeous) . when they need you or want to talk to you you need to be there for them, but when they don't busy chatting with friends etc there is a lot of hanging about and you are seemingly redundant!

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Tinysalmonswimminginastream · 27/06/2021 18:03

Yes, I absolutely hate Sundays, always have even as a child.

The apprehension about the week ahead coupled with the pressure to make sure that I have done everything I need to (as a child, homework, as an adult all the chores) just makes it a really shit day. I also hate having plans for a Sunday as it makes me feel like I should be doing other things, I can't relax at all.

Bearsbearsbears40 · 27/06/2021 18:10

Yes I struggle with Sundays, I can’t relax and do nothing, and if I plan things for the whole day it feels like I am losing my relaxing day! Lockdowns have made this far worse, as though I am out of routine.

4PawsGood · 27/06/2021 18:11

Friday and Saturday have a feeling of hope about them, for what the weekend will bring. Sunday is a bit ‘this is it’. Mixed with the upcoming week.

PilatesPeach · 27/06/2021 18:15

yes! find them quite depressing - even did as a child when forced to go to 8am mass and do homework and housework by my mum. Am single and feel it is a family or couples day - I am actually glad I work for a few hours Sunday lunchtime - can feel very lonely.

ramarama · 27/06/2021 18:34

Another single parent here - and yes, I think it's related to that. Sunday feels like a day for lazing with a partner, not a(nother) day where you have to entertain the kids on your own.
Also not helped by not having family nearby, feels like others are all seeing friends or family on a Sunday

Livingintheclouds · 27/06/2021 18:37

While I have no problem with Sunday, my husband always felt depressed, especially as the day wore on. He associated it with having to be taken back to boarding school. Even though that was only six of his 50 or so years, it still affected him.

beigebrownblue · 27/06/2021 18:48

@ramarama

Another single parent here - and yes, I think it's related to that. Sunday feels like a day for lazing with a partner, not a(nother) day where you have to entertain the kids on your own. Also not helped by not having family nearby, feels like others are all seeing friends or family on a Sunday
Yes, this. Well described and I identify with it.

Something about needing to have a certain level of chores done to stave off anxiety and feel somehow more in control of everything, as living through pandemic felt like losing control of so many things and at times as a single parent feeling terrified of getting ill, constantly thinking i have to keep up with this, this and this in case I get ill.

Have more than fourteen days food supply in, just in case, tins, face masks, sanitiser, just in case.

And I'm not over the top about cleanliness either, just that feeling of panic if I don't feel 'on top of things'.

Perhaps I just need to reframe it. I do try. Along the lines of if my livng space is okay and welcoming and clean then that is self care in itself.

Yes, and that friends and family thing on a Sunday.

I used to attend a place of worship, but remember feeling as if it was one of many chores I had to do. And I felt let down by them in the pandemic as I was still down as being a member which I had been for more than a decade. And no one checked to see if I was okay.

I know I could have contacted people, but I was so caught up with managing home schooling and getting DD through G.C.S.E year, it was all I could do to keep up with that and I felt I didn't have anything left for gatherings anyway.

I do try to do a gratitude list in my head. Don't always get there.

Also I dislike the 'make time for yourself have a bubble bath' thing. As sometimes that seems like work. Having a right old moan here...

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beigebrownblue · 27/06/2021 18:51

Just for info I live in a housing block that was built in the fifties.

I often wonder how it was for women back then, I feel housework may have been less isolating as the women must have gathered in the yards to hang up washing and had a chat whilst doing so.

And they would have been able to see across to the park where their kids were playing, which you can't now as there is another row of houses there.

I feel how buildings are designed affects how people feel.

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ZingDramaQueenOfSheeba · 27/06/2021 18:56

sorry, no.
I love Sundays. we mainly relax but spend a bit of time prepping for the week.
I've already sorted the chart for school runs, DD has got her birthday invited ready & in book bag, I'm watching footie, DH is out for a bike ride.
Everyone is resting or playing and content.
it's the calm before the storm.

I hate Mondays though.

Knittingnanny · 27/06/2021 18:57

I still hate sundays aged 64
I hated them as a young teenager, no friends to see or shops to wander around. Homework, enforced church, over boiled veg and chewy fatty roast meat and rubbish tv
Not too bad when my children were young as it was busy with football and cricket ferrying around, but still didn’t like it . Chores, getting ready for school the next day ( me and them) still “ homework” to do for them and preparation for me.
Now they are grown up and busy at the weekend with families of their own, if my husband is working on a Sunday I still get that horrid lonely feeling.
In my case I’m sure it stems from my childhood and the utter boredom of it.

ramarama · 27/06/2021 19:03

OP I try to have stuff planned for the Sunday - ie if you are going to see friends for lunch on the weekend, book it for Sunday lunch and leave your saturday free? I even sometimes ask a girlfriend over for a glass of wine late Sunday afternoon?

Don't often manage to do either, but it really helps me enjoy a Sunday if I save any social stuff until then

2pinkginsplease · 27/06/2021 19:03

Growing up In a single parent family , Sunday’s Were our day for family time. We always had a lazy day, went walks, had a roast dinner and then got ready for the week ahead and visited our grandparents

As an adult and a parent our Sundays are our day of rest. Mon-fri is work days, Saturday is my chores day and a Sunday we either have a family day out or a day at home recharging for the week ahead.

Kanaloa · 27/06/2021 19:18

I always think of a scene in the tv programme my so called life. The mane character is lying on the couch miserable then says ‘there’s something about Sunday night that just makes you want to kill yourself.’

Obviously a bit melodramatic but I do find sundays can be deeply miserable.

Kanaloa · 27/06/2021 19:18

Main character, I meant!

VerticalHorizon · 27/06/2021 19:22

Yes.

For me, it's always been a sign of not being comfortable with what's coming during the week. Typically, not happy at work.

Sundays end up being days when you're trying to psyche yourself up for Monday, or just depressed about it or a mix of both.

Greenmarmalade · 27/06/2021 19:23

I also hate sundays.

LadyJaye · 27/06/2021 19:24

I'm 42 and I still feel a sense of existential dread about undone homework on a Sunday evening.

Akire · 27/06/2021 19:25

I hate Sundays too, single night family so it’s just lack of routine. In the week there is radio to keep me company in the day and TV in the evenings with reasonable things to watch and listen too. Sundays TV feels like well you all be doing fun things so have this rubbish. It seems last twice as long as Fridays.

Akire · 27/06/2021 19:26

*single NO family

MadMadMadamMim · 27/06/2021 19:27

I still find Sundays boring and a bit depressing and I'm late 50s.

I found myself saying to DH in March (about Covid) I just feel like we've had a year of Sundays...

And he knew just what I meant.

Justyouwaitandseeagain · 27/06/2021 19:27

Oh! This thread is so reassuring to read. I always loved Sundays pre-kids but my DH often works weekends so my only days off are taken over by full time solo parenting. My kids are young and generally disagree about what they want to do so I need to drag them with one or other generally upset. Covid has limited activity options and I don’t drive. No family nearby. Kids don’t like roasts and without DH we end up just eating easy options I can cook whilst supervising them. My weekdays are taken up with full time work so it feels like I get no downtime. Also trying to get all chores done for the week ahead. Workdays feel more relaxing tbh. Hmm

Comedycook · 27/06/2021 19:29

I prefer weekdays, always have