Does anyone else worry their relationship will end when this happens?

[Traveh]

Ive always had anxiety. I’ve never been able to comprehend really how people stay in long term relationships. My longest relationship has been 3 years. We moved in and it was generally happy. Then there was a gap for over a decade. Lots of drama and bitty relationships. All I want is to be settled!

Met someone a year and a bit ago and it’s been great. I love him. Yet I have sheer panic when I feel like I’m not making him laugh or it’s not exciting enough etc. I worry all the time should I be texting? Are we texting enough? Too much? Should I see him less or more to keep him interested?

DP is lovely and I have explained bits of this to him and he’s supportive. I just can’t get it out of my head that it will end somehow, or he will get bored. I know I won’t...I love him and could happily put up with some dull days. I just have it in my head it will be over soon.

Hi OP. I have been with my DH for almost 20 years now and a lot of our life is just everyday mundane stuff with the odd exciting holiday or dinner thrown in.

What did your DP say when you discussed how you feel?

I think there’s a lot of pressure to make things really perfect and exciting in the early days.

Why don't you look at getting some counselling? It might all actually be down to very low self esteem

@steakandcheeseplease been in counselling since what feels like forever!

@CatrinVennastin he just says he’s happy. But obviously when I panic it makes things go from maybe a bit dull to definitely not very nice. I guess I just can’t imagine someone wanting to be with me unless I’m constantly entertaining.