Aibu for getting someone in to help me declutter

[Zimmerframe123]

I’m single and feeling so much happier since I’ve decorated my house with soft furnishings. It’s made a world of difference. The cupboard full of cr@p, gone. Cupboards cleared etc.

My bedroom is overwhelming. I do have clear outs, but I’m never on top of it. I was thinking of paying a local cleaner just to help me unclutter. She charges £10 per hour and if I get her over for 3/4 hours I can have a massive clear out.

Great idea if it gets you to a good starting place faster, and assuming you can afford it.

Great idea!

My sister did something similar. She chucked and the cleaner cleaned. But really she kept my sister focused to stay at it and chuck, chuck, chuck. Go for it. Every bag out of the house makes your shoulders feel lighter.

I just get frustrated at the waste as well.

Maybe this post should be about how to get rid of stuff...

For example those bras I won’t wear again as too small. Just Chuck... what if someone can use them ;/

Lols actually bras are gross but yes

Just put the bras in the textile recycling bin. Yes if you can afford it its money well spent.

No, I think this is where we go wrong. All the tidying books (and I know because I've got a zillion of them) say that you should have three boxes. Put away, give away, throw away. But then you get in the position of making decisions. Now, if we could make decisions, we wouldn't be cluttered in the first place. So, bag your clothes and take them to the tip and put them in the textile bin. Or all underwear to tip, all other clothes to charity shop. They can always sell on the not wanted stuff to other charities. Do it straightaway or everytime you walk past the bag, you'll be filching things back out. In a bag, out the house. Done.

Ultimately, which is more important, your mental health, or the few pounds in the charity shop?

What’s gross about used bras?! Don’t throw them away. There are specific charities for them. I think they’re a bit overwhelmed like all charities since everyone’s lockdown clear out but at least put them in the recycling. I assume they’re washed. I’d wear a used bra. What’s the issue?

Not unreasonable at all. In the past I've had help from a charity with my then hoarding so if that's what might help you, by all means go for it

Sounds like a great idea.

You'll stay on task and get the job finished.
You'll have an objective opinion on hand if there's a question as to what to chuck and what to keep.
You'll feel accountable. Not sure if that's the right word. Maybe responsible is better - responsible to not waste the cleaner's time or effort.

Yep go for it.

Agree that second hand bras are fine. Mine go to charity.

I would 1000% do this if I lived somewhere the service was offered. Such a lift to your mental health to be relieved of it and be in a pleasing environment.

@Cheesypea

Just put the bras in the textile recycling bin. Yes if you can afford it its money well spent.

They are sports bras so no wires but yes sweaty. I have big tits, so they could be useful for someone.

@moonbedazzled

No, I think this is where we go wrong. All the tidying books (and I know because I've got a zillion of them) say that you should have three boxes. Put away, give away, throw away. But then you get in the position of making decisions. Now, if we could make decisions, we wouldn't be cluttered in the first place. So, bag your clothes and take them to the tip and put them in the textile bin. Or all underwear to tip, all other clothes to charity shop. They can always sell on the not wanted stuff to other charities. Do it straightaway or everytime you walk past the bag, you'll be filching things back out. In a bag, out the house. Done.

Ultimately, which is more important, your mental health, or the few pounds in the charity shop?

Good advise!

@UncleBunclesHouse

I would 1000% do this if I lived somewhere the service was offered. Such a lift to your mental health to be relieved of it and be in a pleasing environment.

There is a woman who is offering services of decluttering… but she won’t tell me what I do and don’t need.