Wedding outfit 😪

[FairyDust123456]

I have a family wedding to attend tomorrow and I am so dreading it 😢 I look fat in everything and just feel like a frump! I'll be going alone (but will know some extended family, who arnt the most welcoming of people! ) and I just don't want to go. I have fleeting moments of thinking "yerp, you are fat, own it" and other moments of, omg, am I going to face people. Don't know why I'm posting, just needed to write it down I suppose

I'm sorry you feel like this. The extended family that "aren't the most welcoming of people", sod them, if they're that way inclined they'd still be the same if you were a supermodel.

We all have days where we feel like shit and don't want to face the world. Why don't you spend some time this evening putting on some make up, doing your hair and trying on some outfits when you're done up, it makes a big difference to how you look and hopefully make you feel better.

Do you definitely have to go? have you got an outfit that works for you or are you struggling to find something you're happy with?

Have you got an outfit or time to get one? I mean nothing like a tight deadline to narrow down your choices?

I get the don't want to go feeling - its bad advice but I'm a shit liar so I think, well if I don't I'd have to explain I didn't go because I thought I looked shit in a dress. And that sounds really shallow and stupid, so I put on the outfit I feel least bad in.

Is it just a last minute wobble over an outfit that really is fine? Concentrate on your hair and make up instead.

Is there someone that can give you an opinion on your outfit? I think I look fat in everything - but that's because I am - no outfit is going to make me look like a size 8 as much as I wish it.

Not going somewhere because of your weight can be a bit of a slippery slope.

Thanks so much for the responses, really appreciate 😊 and you're right, sod them and it's true that would be as unwelcoming if I was a supermodel, so true! I'm concentrating on my hair and my nails, I feel a bit better than I did when I posted originally. I am me, and that's it! I will try to tackle th weight as this is the biggest thing for me atm, and again, th other poster is right, it would be a slippery slope to not go due to this. Honestly, thank you both x

Concentrating on hair, nails and make up is a good strategy OP!

I saw a friend for drinks the other week. She has gained some weight in lockdown, which if I’m being honest is noticeable, and she told me she is self-conscious about it. But she had done her hair and make up beautifully, and she looked absolutely gorgeous!

Weight is not the defining factor of whether someone is attractive. Try to focus on that inner confidence that comes through, and remember that people who judge others for their weight are the most unattractive sorts of people!

I'm sure half the population has gained weight during lockdown, I know I have and I'm now storming ahead to try and get it off for my September wedding, but try not to beat myself up about it.

Oh and OP something to think about at the wedding, have you seen the film Shallow Hal, I bet all your unwelcoming "friends" are like the characters in this

Glad you're feeling better, I hope you have a great day.