DH thinks I'm "too nice"

[MrsExpo]

Long story short, I treated myself to a new iMac computer during lock down last year. My old one was getting too slow to handle the work I wanted it to do (I like to make animated music videos and also do a lot of photography - just as a hobby), so bought a much higher spec model.

Recently I met up with a friend I hadn't seen since before lock down last year. I didn't mention the new computer, but she told me she too had had a lock down treat - a new camera - but was now saving up to replace her aging laptop with something better to enable her to run some of the more powerful photo processing software and to have a bigger and better screen to work on.

So, I told her she could have my old iMac, which will be more than capable of handling the sort of work she needs it to do. I don't have space for 2 machines so it was surplus to requirements and gathering dust in the loft. I must stress she didn't ask for it. I offered.

DH now thinks I'm "too nice" and a soft touch.(Could have sold it for a few hundred quid I guess), but she was thrilled to have it and I like that she can now do more with her photography as a result.

So, is it possible to be too nice? Apparently so ...........

If it’s yours and you wanted to gift it that’s your business. I tend to gift or donate rather than sell stuff. Good karma and all that.

Well, he sounds like a fun sponge.

Last year I ordered a laptop for kids to use during lockdown, and the company sent two, so I passed one to my friend who couldn't afford one for her daughter.

That's just 'nice' surely, what's the definition of 'too nice'? If you can afford to help people, what's the argument against doing it?

Yes, being ‘too nice’ can be very wearing for this around you But this example isn’t particularly jarring on its own

Its yours to do what you want with.

Can people be too nice? Yes they can but you have only given one example of your niceness.

There's a difference between being generous and being a doormat.

I think maybe more context is important here. Does your DP think maybe the friend was heavily hint dropping for a freebie or you’re regularly taken advantage of in similar situations?