I feel so sad this evening

[tunnocksreturns2019]

My DC had a totally, utterly, wonderful father. He shouldn’t have died when they were 7 and 5. The gap in particularly my eldest’s life is cavernous right now. DH was the love of my life but that’s by the by right now - what my DC have lost breaks my heart.

The ones we love never truly leave us. to you and your wonderful DC.

It is indeed a stupid day. I was your eldest 40 years ago. I can still remember it. Everyone was very kind to me then we would make Fathers Day cards. Even though I didn't know the words I can remember even then wanting to scream the equivalent of "I haven't got an f'ing father" I think things are better now.
However I also remember really nice times as a very close family after my dad died. I can still feel how kind people were. Love to you all.

@Natsel84

This is my first fathers day without my dad , although its different circumstances I feel for you OP. Sending 💐 and to you and your children a big big hug

Thank you, back to you. It’s a big loss, even as a ‘grown up’ x

@babbaloushka

The ones we love never truly leave us. to you and your wonderful DC.

You are so right x

@oreosfortea

It is indeed a stupid day. I was your eldest 40 years ago. I can still remember it. Everyone was very kind to me then we would make Fathers Day cards. Even though I didn't know the words I can remember even then wanting to scream the equivalent of "I haven't got an f'ing father" I think things are better now. However I also remember really nice times as a very close family after my dad died. I can still feel how kind people were. Love to you all.

@TiltTopTable

Hi Tunnocks. My mother lost the love of her life 53 years ago - when I was 6 years old. I'm one of 4 siblings and our ages ranged from 10 to 3 when our dad died. This was in the 60s and things were handled differently then. All I can advise is to talk to your children about their father, to ask them about their feelings and to keep his memory alive. My eldest sister told me, not that long ago, that she was crying at school and wondering to herself 'do they know?' as our father was hardly mentioned after he passed.

You sound like a lovely mum and I'm sure you and your children will come through this together. There are charities for children who have lost a parent, so maybe look into those 💐

Oh my goodness! I don't think I'm your sibling but I thought EXACTLY the same thing. I can remember telling my mum that some of the teachers didn't know - she assured me they all did!