Father's day - same shit every year

[Shehasadiamondinthesky]

Just feeling so low as I do every year on this day.
My biological father abandoned me before I was even born and has never been in touch despite knowing where all my family lived and my stepfather hated me with a passion even though I tried so hard to please him.
I was chucked out at 16 to fend for myself.
Everywhere are best dad in the world cards, everyone on faxebook saying how wonderful their fathers are and me at 60 still trying to get over the abandonment and abuse.
I'm having psychiatric treatment but every year it's like a knife in the heart.

I didn’t want to read and run - I just wanted to say un-mumsnetty hugs, and I’m truly sorry that happened to you. My dd’s bio father has never been around and every year at school they do all the card making etc and it angers me, how many children in the school must feel this way? You sound like a strong person and I hope that you find some peace through your counselling. It’s just a day.

Today is the first father's day my DD13 is spending after her dad committed suicide 5 months ago. After a strained relationship with him she is a jumbled mess of emotions today.
There is so much pressure for all kids to make cards in school. Thankfully she is at the age she doesn't do this.

We were going to keep the day low key for my DP who we share 2 younger DDs. He completely stood by this and asked me to not celebrate it at all for DDs sake. School have basically drummed into younger girls about fathers day, they have come home with lots of lovely ideas and cards for their Dad. But it isn't what we planned, as they are very young they don't really understand my eldest is having quite a traumatic time.
Had school not have told them they wouldn't have known about today. (I am not blaming the school by the way)

She is in her room right now sobbing. I have no idea what to do.

Op, I am sending you lots of hugs on a difficult day for many.

You poor thing. I'm so sorry - you deserve to have a lovely dad.

My sons haven’t seen their father in years so I’m doing the traditional sneaking to see my dad this afternoon, so they don’t feel left out.

@Idroppedthescrewinthetuna

Today is the first father's day my DD13 is spending after her dad committed suicide 5 months ago. After a strained relationship with him she is a jumbled mess of emotions today. There is so much pressure for all kids to make cards in school. Thankfully she is at the age she doesn't do this.

We were going to keep the day low key for my DP who we share 2 younger DDs. He completely stood by this and asked me to not celebrate it at all for DDs sake. School have basically drummed into younger girls about fathers day, they have come home with lots of lovely ideas and cards for their Dad. But it isn't what we planned, as they are very young they don't really understand my eldest is having quite a traumatic time.
Had school not have told them they wouldn't have known about today. (I am not blaming the school by the way)

She is in her room right now sobbing. I have no idea what to do.

Op, I am sending you lots of hugs on a difficult day for many.

So awful, I really feel for your daughter. I have step siblings whom he adores and every year they put happy messages on facebook about what a wonderful father he is, nobody in my family ever seems to notice my name is not on there and I haven't joined in, I find it absolutely crippling even at my age. Tell her she is not alone, there are plenty of people younger and older who feel the greatest of solidarity with her and we must all comfort each other on days like this. Hugs from afar.

Right there with you. I lost my Dad 2.5 years ago and my own kids Dad is a waste of space. Sad and emotional day for me too. The Facebook posts are like a knife in the heart.

My DD wrote my DP a card (her stepdad) she didn't have to, she wanted to. DP could barely read it because he can feel how much it must have hurt her writing it and not doing her dad one.

She knows she isn't alone and many people are experiencing the same emotions today. Its just the first one without her dad. She has coped quite well so far but today has thrown her completely off.

I am popping into her room every so often to keep check on her. As a mum I have no idea how to comfort her. A cuddle and saying I understand and love her just doesn't seem enough.

There are so many suffering today. Children and adults. My heart breaks for all of you.
My dad is and has always been amazing. I just cannot comprehend how awful it is for those who don't or didn't have the love they deserved from their dads.

Every child deserves the right to have good parents, every child deserves the right to have love. So many parents just are so shitty it makes my blood boil.

My dad is a selfish man who I haven’t spoken to in at leats 2 years. Just stop caring. I k ow it’s easier said than done. I spent ages wondering why I wasn’t good enough despite trying hard to please as well. but I went to therapy and realised i can’t do anything about that and I just don’t care anymore.

It’s not you, it’s really not, many people love their children no matter how flawed their kids may be. Some people are just incapable, that doesn’t make you unlovable it makes them deficient.