Are teachers allowed to voice how the other parents feel towards a certain child in the class?

[GlitzAndGlamour26]

Just that really.Is this allowed?

Spot on flibberty
Excellent summary

So the kid's been misbehaving and upsetting other children then. And considering you won't tell us what it was, it must be quite bad and/or consistent. Tell your 'neighbour' to put some manners on their child instead of trying to blame the teacher.

Yes you can’t tell at all from the information given.
“Your mum and dad (or your two mums/dads) are going to hell because they’re fornicating outside marriage/not following the correct deity” for example would correctly elicit the complaint in question.

If the teacher had had several complaints from different parents because the actions from this child has caused upset to their children then the teacher was telling the truth about “You have upset several parents” I can’t see anything wrong with that tbh

@ConsuelaHammock

Tell your neighbour it’s fine if it’s the truth. Sometimes the truth hurts, maybe their child will behave now. Parents do talk about the horrible children in their children’s classes. They are allowed an opinion if their children’s education is being disrupted by a badly behaved brat. Good for the teacher!

Teachers should be dealing with bad behaviour in school and parents should deal with bad behaviour outwith school.

If I complain that child A has hit my child B, the teacher knows I am unhappy, obviously. But it's never appropriate for them to say to child A that I have complained, they should simply deal with the fact they've done the hitting.

In any event some parents are massively precious and are under the deluded impression that their own kids are little angels.

@TenBobNote

If the teacher had had several complaints from different parents because the actions from this child has caused upset to their children then the teacher was telling the truth about “You have upset several parents” I can’t see anything wrong with that tbh

It's not about the parents, it's about the children. The teacher should be saying you've upset children A B and C. What the parents think doesn't come into it.

It shouldn't matter what parents think, but the teacher is fine to say other children are upset.

• You and Jamie need to find other people to play with because when you argue you sometimes hurt him and that is not acceptable.
• But Jamie wants to play with me!
• But Jamie's mummy and daddy are upset when Jamie gets hurt and upset, so we think you should play with other people for now and stay away from one another.

It's not about the parents, it's about the children. The teacher should be saying you've upset children A B and C. What the parents think doesn't come into it

The teacher probably has told the child that so and so is upset because of his behaviour, several times, and it has made no difference. Hence why the parents feel the need to approach the teacher. It’s the teacher who is dealing with the child’s behaviour and complaints from parents.

If the parent of the child isn’t dealing effectively with their child’s behaviour the school will step in and deal with it. If the child’s behaviour is upsetting the running of the class then the teacher has every right to step in and let him/her know that some parents are upset by his/her behaviour.

If several parents have complained then previous attempts at preventing the behaviour of that child, that is upsetting other children, and the day today running of the class, isn’t working is it?

[quote GlitzAndGlamour26]@ConsuelaHammock I was asking for my neighbour.I have mentioned it before if you bother to read it.[/quote]
Can you just get the neighbour to post, the whole story please?

How old is the child? "Primary age" is a huge range

Come back OP, I'm here for the drama

[quote GlitzAndGlamour26]@Fitforforty Excuse me don't be calling my child that!!!I was asking for my neighbour who has not given anymore information![/quote]
Did fitforforty hit a nerve? Because otherwise there is no reason to read the post like that. "I strongly suspect" is absolutely not calling your child a little shit. The outrage and denial on the other hand.....

Years ago, children went to school to be taught many many things, by teachers who were there to teach all the children, and never had to get engaged in all this nonsense, and parents involvement stuff.. All this stuff must take up a lot of precious teaching time.

It all depends on the context.

However, barring unusual circumstances, I get the impression your neighbour would be better to focus their energies on dealing with their child’s behaviour than on trying to catch the teacher out.

If they genuinely want advice, mine would be to work with the school. Their child won’t be having much fun either - happy, secure children don’t tend to upset so many people! There will be a reason for the behaviour and if everyone works together at this stage there is a good chance it can be improved before the naughty kid label sticks.

Maybe we need a diagram to show where the neighbour lives in relation to you before we can understand the question.

I think yes. Lots of people have zero self awareness e.g. parent thinks their child is “lively”. Everyone else thinks they’re an annoying little fucker