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AutoGroup · 19/06/2021 11:31

I bought a car yesterday. Not the first car I've ever bought but shockingly the first one I've bought all on my own. My dad helped me with my first and then I got married and DH has always been there for subsequent purchases. I think TBH I was always the decision maker, but he was always there.

I've also just unblocked a blocked sink for the first time and started mowing the grass and reading the gas meter myself.

DH is very ill and unable to do anything now. I have a senior professional career. I'm intelligent and capable. I always thought we had an equal division of labour and we did for the domestic tasks, but it's shocking how I let him get on with the "blue" jobs.

I'm finding there's a lot I don't know how to do, things I've just never done. I can find out and be fairly capable when I try, I just never have. Anyone else?

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HollowTalk · 19/06/2021 17:11

It's easy to get used to that division of labour, isn't it? I'm divorced and there are lots of jobs I struggle with. I don't bother trying, tbh, and pay someone to sort it out. If I'm buying something big then I'd ask my family or friends for advice.

I'm really sorry your husband's so ill. It must be an incredibly difficult time for you.

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