Been seeing new man for three months now. He just turned 40. We’ve seen each other a lot, often daily, like him loads, he seems to like me back. We kissed on the 6th date. We eventually stayed over on date 14. We’ve both done oral and he seems ok receiving it though was nervous at the start. He won’t always do it back and sometimes asks in a very shy voice if I would like it more. I said yes if he was comfortable with it but I was happy with things without it if he wasn’t. Which is true, I do love oral but as long as our sex life takes off I don’t mind going without.
Anyway. He’s yet to make a move on me sex wise and I’ve gone to instigate it a few times and he sort of goes along with it, gets heated and then he freezes when it comes to the moment of him going in. I’ve asked him outright if he just doesn’t want sex, he says no and that he’s just nervous as it’s been a long time (years) since he’s done it. He assures me there’s no other reason. He’s always hard. He gives great massages. We cuddle up to sleep naked.
This conversation was 3 weeks ago and nothing changed since. Is this a common thing? Could he genuinely be this shy about it? He’s quite a quiet man generally so I do believe he’s got limited experience, but I’m quite easy going and understanding and I would hope he would gain confidence.