NothingEverChangesButTheShoes ·
16/06/2021 21:51
I know a lady through a mutual interest. We aren't friends, more acquaintances, and I haven't really seen her since the start of the pandemic. She used to sit with me, because the wider group is quite cliquey.
Go back about two years. She became a little clingy and gave me a lot of workbooks for DD. She said they were left over from her own daughter, but I noticed in the bottom of the plastic bag they came the receipt dated for three days previous. Her DD is a good few years older so they'd have been no use to her at the time of buying. The books came to over £20. The lady has a disability which has caused her to stop working and I felt very uncomfortable accepting the books when she'd spent so much and then lied. I spoke to the group leader, tried to stay clear and things died down.
During the pandemic the lady has called me a couple of times and I've been supportive but guarded.
Roll on to three weeks ago. I met her out and about and since then things have got odd. She called me. I was with DD and I try not to answer calls when she is about. I don't have time to chat, I'd rather play. Lady called me again and left two voicemails. So I called her back in the evening and chatted. She has now left the group we were part of because she didn't like the leader or anyone else there apart from a couple of people. I had noticed no one would really bother with her, but I respected her and was polite.
The next week she called again, left me voicemails and texts until I answered. I sent a text this time. She said she wanted to give me some things to help my DD and she will come to DD's school to meet me. I didn't really want her coming to DD's school so I said she could meet either after drop off or come to my home and gave her my address. She came and brought a lot of nursery type resources (my DD is quite a bit past nursery) for DD. She mentioned she was having trouble paying her mortgage but I noticed she must have used a lot of ink and laminating paper to make the resources. End of, or so I thought.
Tonight at school pick up, the children were dismissed early and on the way home my phone started ringing. I ignored it because I was driving. It rang again 5 minutes later. We get home and it's the lady. Ringing because she was outside school and wanted to see DD. I found that very odd. She has her own primary aged daughter that she should have been home for. I text her at five pm after she text me a couple of times telling me she wanted to see DD and hoping everything was OK. I told her we'd been busy.
She's likely on quite strong medication and I'm wondering whether her decision making skills are clouded. I haven't asked for anything and don't expect to be ambushed outside school especially since she has her own children. I'm also a little worried about her hanging round wanting to see DD. Part of me thinks she is just being kind. Part of me has all sorts of weird and wonderful scenarios where she'd intercepted DD at the classroom door. I don't know how the teacher knows who is picking up because the picker up asks for the child by name and no one has ever picked DD up apart from me.
To where you lot come in. How do I get rid of this woman? I can't exactly go to anyone to tell her to stop because she's not done anything aside from ask around for my address before I gave it to her. Someone told me she'd been asking. Do I tell school she's been bobbing about outside? Do I tell her not to come to school? We are often busy straight after school and are rushing off to a club so we'd have no time to chat. Or, should I just completely ignore her?
I've NC for this because it involves my DD indirectly. Also. Sorry. Far too LONG.