Carers keep using non drop kerb to get on my drive

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I have a large drive, enough room for 5 cars. However, we only ever put 2 cars on it because this is all the access you can get from the drop kerb. (Without manoeuvring cars).

Our application for a new drop kerb to make it a drive on drive off type arrangement was declined.

Anyway DH has carers coming and they regularly drive across the pavement to get on the empty bit of driveway.

As I understand it, this is illegal, but who is liable? Me as the householder of the drive being accessed or them as the driver?

Yes a diagram please. I'm picturing that you park directly in front of the drop kerb so they then can't access the drive from it and are accessing it from the raised kerb instead.

You should just park over a bit so that they can use the drop kerb, presumably they aren't there long if they come 3 times a day.

They can definitely use the drop kerb with my car where it is. When DH had a (huge, which I hated) Discovery it was the way he always got an and off the drive.

Wouldnt it be better to allow them easier access?

Just leave them to it, honestly.

The space that I leave them is the easier access. It's the one we always used for the larger of our two cars.

Carers park appallingly. We live next to a block of flats for the elderly and the parking by the carers is shocking.

I've had rows before where I have stood in their way so they can't go in and insisted they move their car which they abandon parked on a corner, a short bus ride from the curb, making it ridiculously difficult to maneuver out of the cul-de-sac. This takes place literally 10 feet away from an empty row of at least 6 or 7 parking spaces.

Move your car to where they're parking?

Can you put a of plank of wood out to lessen the drop?
Really the carers should be top priority in this scenario. They will be wrecking their cars mounting the pavement like that but it seems a risk they are taking to help your husband.

@SnoopCatz

Can you put a of plank of wood out to lessen the drop? Really the carers should be top priority in this scenario. They will be wrecking their cars mounting the pavement like that but it seems a risk they are taking to help your husband.

No absolutely not, that really is illegal and it would be clear it came from the householder

@VettiyaIruken

Move your car to where they're parking?

Then I can't get off the drive when people quite reasonably park across it where the kerb isn't dropped

do you want to leave when they are there?

Driving is the driver's responsibility.

Really the carers should be top priority in this scenario.

Should they? Their actual role is to make my life easier. A life where I'm trying to care for a bedbound, incontinent husband (albeit with 4 visits a day) manage a full time senior level job, run the house and support children who are watching their father die. Of course they should be treated decently but I'm not sure they need to be my priority.

any other visitors op?
church?
macmillan nurse?
district nurse?
are they all in the wrong?

does it matter how the carers get on to the driveway?

their role is with your dh though

@AbsolutelyPatsy

any other visitors op? church? macmillan nurse? district nurse? are they all in the wrong?

does it matter how the carers get on to the driveway?

Well I think it does actually, if it's illegal and potentially causing damage to the pavement outside the house.

Lots of other visitors yes. Very few use the drive or if they do, at school times when parking is difficult, they use the drop kerb.

their role is to care for your DH.

If you wanted to speak to them about using the dropped kerb, that would be fine. You'd be perfectly entitled to do that.

But you have so much on your plate, are you maybe trying to control something that doesn't need to be controlled, because that's all you can control? That's fine, it really is. Is anyone prioritising you? Are you getting any support/counselling - even a physical trainer or a massage, anything that allows you to breathe for an hour.

speak to the carers op,

If they park there, how do they get off the drive?

You could then narrow the access by putting planters over the non dropped portion.

The situation sounds very stressful for you OP, but you do appear to be fixating on a small issue that isn't really important in the big scheme of things. As PP have said, maybe because it's something you feel is in your control. Do you need to get off the drive when the carers are there, is that the time you go out?

But you have so much on your plate, are you maybe trying to control something that doesn't need to be controlled, because that's all you can control? That's fine, it really is. Is anyone prioritising you? Are you getting any support/counselling - even a physical trainer or a massage, anything that allows you to breathe for an hour

I agree, you have so much on, let them park where they like, it's up to them. I do understand, next door has carers 4x a day and they ways park at the end of our drive and not theirs I leave them to it and just knock and make them move if I want to get out.

Seriously what? How can anyone possibly care about this? It's a pavement, not egg shells, I only have a half a dropped kerb, so sometimes I drive over the non dropped part.

Give these poor stressed underpaid people a break and find something else to worry about!

Sorry OP just read the thread. You do indeed have many other things to worry about.

Pls don't worry about this. In many roads in the UK people park on actual pavements. It's 100 percent fine.

Have you talked to them about it and asked them not to?
I’m a carer. I wouldn’t park time that anyway but if I was I would stop if you asked me to.

@SnoopCatz

Can you put a of plank of wood out to lessen the drop? Really the carers should be top priority in this scenario. They will be wrecking their cars mounting the pavement like that but it seems a risk they are taking to help your husband.

Being a carer doesn't give anyone an entitlement. The priority here is and always will be the person being cared for.