First 6/12 months of dating - who pays?

[Getafuckinggripman]

I'm talking light years away from moving in together and splitting bills. Only several months in... so odd meals and drinks out and weekends at each others houses etc. Do you expect 50/50 so it's fair and equal? Do you insist on paying for a full meal if he paid last time? Or do you take the more traditional approach and expect the man to just foot the majority?

50/50 for first few months (3?) then leaning towards a higher contribution from the higher earner

A mix of turn taking/bill splitting and treating each other. No one set rule for the whole time.

I would never expect the man to pay for everything though, I value my independence.

50/50 or taking it in turns

Take it in turns so it’s roughly 50/50 without fracking out the calculator.

Why would the man be expected to pay for everything?

Just alternate bill paying normally unless one is a massively high earner

But actually split 50/50 on big things like weekends away

50/50 or take it in turns.

Or do you take the more traditional approach and expect the man to just foot the majority?

Didn't that cease to be the "more traditional approach" back in the 60s ?!

Why should a man pay for everything?

As others have said: 50/50 or take it in turns.

50/50 including the first date.

After first couple of dates, I would expect a 50:50 split...more turn taking than working out half of a bill though

Surely no one expects the man to pay in 2021?

Oh some posters will certainly be along to talk about why they expect men to pay.

50/50 always!

@OrangeSharked

Just alternate bill paying normally unless one is a massively high earner

I reckon in that case 50/50 is even more important. Otherwise it just looks like the poorer one is in it for the money.

I'd split the first few bills and then take it in turns when it's clear it's a more long term thing

@ChairOnToast I've found men I've dated to have always insisted on paying for the first couple of dates...or at least the first one :) I dont mind either way, just my experience.

I knew dh b4 and I knew he didn't have a great deal of cash that week.. I suggested a date /drink my treat.
He hated it.

After that he'd moved in pretty quick. I was originally working pt and wtc.
He immediately took to paying everything. I stopped wtc. Even to this day he' pays 'everything as I'm a sahm until I'm ready to return