Unclean partner

[MaryRos]

Hi everyone, I’ve deliberated over posting this for quite a while now, but I feel I have no one else to talk to regarding the matter. My boyfriend/partner appears not to shower very often. Going at least 5 days without washing. I feel I can’t talk to my friends as I don’t want to embarrass him or even myself by divulging such personal information. It’s starting to really annoy me especially as I always feel I make the effort , showering daily and applying fresh makeup etc. We rarely have sex as he hasn’t showered and just heads to bed. He is very good to me and my kids in every other way, the not washing is starting to be a deal breaker and I would like some advice if there is any way I can approach the subject with causing him offence and hurting his feelings. Can anyone please help?

There a few ways you could approach this the gentle hint ;

Wow its warm , I need a shower I think you do to .
You have had that tshirt on for a few days why dont you take it off jump in the shower and I will chuck it in the wash
Are you allergic to the soap / shampoo we have got , you dont seem to be washing very often .

the joke ,
by hell have you been / did you run home from work you wiff a bit
I dont charge for soap and water you know .
You have got spuds growing behind your ears

The blunt
you pong lad , go take a shower
Do you know how to use the shower
Here is a towel there is the shower make sure you use them in the right order

The if you want sex ( him not you )
lets have a shower / bath together
its hot I need a cool shower before hand why dont you have one too
I prefer it if you are clean all over before we get down to nooky

Tell him. Tell him what you said in your post. It's that or split really isn't it?

He's not a bloody child so he doesn't need reminding to get himself clean.

You’re living with and having sex with him. You should be able to communicate well enough to tell him that he smells bad and it puts you off. It’s not as if he’s washing every day but has a medical condition or whatever, I can understand wanting to take a sensitive approach in that sort of situation; but a man who doesn’t wash for a week can’t expect to be anything but smelly, can he? He should be embarrassed that he needs to be told. If DP is a bit stinky (because he’s been working in the garden or whatever) I just tell him he’s a bit stinky. It’s nothing to be ashamed of, it’s normal, and you solve it with a shower.

It’s fine to take a sensitive approach with somebody who is trying their best.

He’s your partner, surely you can say “why don’t you shower every day” …( you know like normal people)